“Somewhere along the line, as we grow up, we get so used to doing things a certain way that we lose touch with that creative side of the brain. As kids, we tried all sorts of things and never stuck to a certain methodology or structure, but I think facilitation brings out that childlike curiosity, which makes the whole thing very special. And I think that’s what’s kept me going.”- Varsha Prasad

In this Facilitation Lab podcast episode, host Douglas Ferguson interviews Varsha Prasad of IdeaCompass about her journey as a facilitator and entrepreneur. Varsha shares insights from her first design thinking workshop, the impact of mentorship, and the importance of creating engaging environments. She discusses navigating cultural differences in facilitation, her transition to independent consulting, and the value of community support. The conversation highlights the power of innovation, structured reflection, and open-mindedness in workshops, offering practical advice for facilitators seeking to inspire creativity and collaboration across diverse teams.

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Varsha is an innovation strategist and the Founder of IdeaCompass, a consulting practice dedicated to helping entrepreneurs and intrapreneurs transform bold ideas into actionable strategies. She specializes in facilitation, design thinking, and business innovation, working with diverse industries including tech, education, transportation, hospitality and e-commerce and public sector.  

With a strong background in customer success and corporate innovation, Varsha has collaborated with organizations globally to drive impactful change. She is passionate about building human-centered solutions that deliver tangible business results.  

Varsha’s expertise lies in guiding cross-functional teams, fostering creative collaboration, and simplifying complexity into clear, actionable strategies. Her approach blends structured innovation frameworks with a deep understanding of customer needs, ensuring sustainable transformation for the businesses she works with.

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Voltage Control is a facilitation academy that develops leaders through certifications, workshops, and organizational coaching focused on facilitation mastery, innovation, and play. Today’s leaders are confronted with unprecedented uncertainty and complex change. Navigating this uncertainty requires a systemic facilitative approach to gain clarity and chart pathways forward. We prepare today’s leaders for now and what’s next.

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Transcript

Douglas:

Hi, I’m Douglas Ferguson. Welcome to the Facilitation Lab Podcast where I speak with Voltage Control Certification alumni and other facilitation experts about the remarkable impact they’re making. We embrace a method agnostic approach so you can enjoy a wide range of topics and perspectives as we examine all the nuances enabling meaningful group experiences. This series is dedicated to helping you navigate the realities of facilitating collaboration, ensuring every session you lead becomes truly transformative. Thanks so much for listening. If you’d like to join us for a live session sometime, you can join our Facilitation Lab Community. It’s an ideal space to apply what you learn in the podcast in real time with peers. Sign up today at voltagecontrol.com/facilitation-lab, and if you’d like to learn more about our 12-week facilitation certification program, you can read about it at voltagecontrol.com. Today, I’m with Varsha Prasad at IdeaCompass, where she helps entrepreneurs and enterpreneurs build customer-centric products through custom innovation workshops. Welcome to the show, Varsha.

Varsha:

Thank you, Douglas. Happy to be here and chat with you.

Douglas:

Yeah, it’s so good to have you. And I guess let’s get started by hearing a little bit about how you got your start. Take us back to that first design thinking workshop at Cisco. What do you remember about how it felt walking into that room and why did it hit so different?

Varsha:

Yeah, that was a different kind of day for me, especially because I was used to one hour meetings in a conference room with long tables and chairs on either side of the tables, one person standing at the front of the table walking through a presentation, and most of us joining off or just looking into our phones. But that was a special one because as soon as we entered the table, the room set up was totally different. There was music playing in the background.

And we had our director, who was supposed to be one of the senior most people in our organization, standing at the door welcoming people with smiles, and I could see sticky notes, colorful sticky notes and Lego blocks and all sorts of cool stuff lying on the table there. So that was very new to me. And from the time we entered, I didn’t know how the day passed. It was eight hours. We walked in at 9 AM and then we finished, I’d say I think five or something with a break in between for lunch. That was the day that things turned around for me and I fell in love with the whole process of design thinking and creative workshops.

Douglas:

Was there a specific moment in the day where something clicked for you?

Varsha:

I think the fact that ideation is, I think one of my favorite ways to work around things, like from the day I realized that this is how you can brainstorm and come up with new ideas. Idea bombing is one of my favorite exercises. Every time I feel like I’m in a clump, I’m stuck, I just stick to this plain, simple exercise. I take a sheet of paper and a pen and just start writing as many ideas as I can. And some of the best ideas come up when you are sitting with a tight timeline. You say, put a timer of 10 minutes and in the 10 minutes come up with as many ideas as you can. And that is one of my favorite exercises, and I keep using that over and over again, both with my participants and myself as well.

Douglas:

I love that. Have you ever done ten-by-ten writing from Liberating Structures?

Varsha:

I’ve done, I think the eight-by-eight, is the Crazy Eights the same thing?

Douglas:

Crazy Eights is a little different. I love Crazy Eights too. To your point, that’s another rapid fire time constraint activity. The ten-by-ten writing is, it’s not part of the Liberating Structures repertoire, but it’s listed as one of the in development. And basically you give your participants a prompt and they’re supposed to write 10 responses to it, and then you give them a second prompt and they write 10 responses and a third prompt, and they write 10 responses. And it’s about just creating so much volume because essentially they’re writing a hundred things that they’re writing 10 things to 10 different prompts.

Varsha:

Exactly. Yeah, that’s an interesting one. Probably the next ideation exercise for me to try out.

Douglas:

Yeah. You can get really playful with the prompts too. One of my favorites is what is something that users don’t want.

Varsha:

I think that there’ll be a list of 20 of them. [inaudible 00:05:04].

Douglas:

Yes. So often we’re making things that people don’t want, right? That’s amazing.

Varsha:

True. I agree.

Douglas:

So you mentioned your lead being a real pivotal mentor, and I want to come back to that kind of scenario you described of just walking in and the room was set up totally different and they were greeting you at the door and there were all these things sprinkled around the room that were different and just how much of an impact the way the room is set up can have.

Varsha:

Yeah.

Douglas:

Do you want to elaborate on that a little bit?

Varsha:

Yeah, a lot, because I think this also came up in the Art of Gathering by Priya Parker, when we were doing the certification. So how you set up the room, how the room is placed when participants enter it changes the mood, the psychology of the participants, I think to be in a different environment. I think that’s key. I think for me, it just transported me into a very playful environment and having the music around and seeing those creative, colorful sticky notes, it just activated that creative side of the brain. I guess that’s what it did to me. And ever since then, I realized that that plays a very crucial role because corporate meeting setups, usually there is a hierarchy where the head of the meeting stands at the front and everyone is seated around the table in rows. So it’s a stark difference for sure.

Douglas:

And it’s interesting how powerful that can be. Just putting some thought into how we might just rearrange the space, how we might group folks different, how we might change the seating. It’s a totally different experience walking in with rows of seats versus clusters of chairs or… Very powerful. Also, I took note of you talking about how you were greeted at the door.

Varsha:

Yeah.

Douglas:

It’s like so often the host is stuck behind a laptop trying to get the HDMI cable to work or whatever, and that feeling of being invited in, being welcomed, so powerful.

Varsha:

Yeah. And it shows that they were in the room much before the meeting started and they prepped for it. They got all the stuff in. So it shows how much effort they’ve put into designing that space for us, and that automatically signals that we need to be just as involved. It allows us to reciprocate that.

Douglas:

Yeah. The facilitation doesn’t start, once everyone’s in the room and we’re getting folks attention. It starts when folks are first arriving and how are we making them feel comfortable. And to your point, you even just mentioned that you were starting to feel a certain way around like, oh, I’m already in a creative mindset. I’m ready to play games. I’m ready to be totally different in this space.

Varsha:

Yeah, yeah. Especially when you’re not used to that in your office and when you hear music in the office, it just plays on your mind. Yeah.

Douglas:

Yeah. So cool. So coming back to your mentor, what did you learn from shadowing him and working alongside him and how did that shape your early style as a facilitator?

Varsha:

Yeah, so my mentor, his name is Viva, that’s how we call him, Viva. And he was the one who had been to a design thinking workshop, and then he realized how powerful the framework is, just the mindset that it puts us all in. And he decided to introduce that into our organization, and I think we were one of the first or the second teams that he introduced this concept to. The day we did the workshop, I went up to him and I said, “Hey, I really liked the whole workshop that we did today. How can I be part of this?” And he said, “There is no formal design thinking club as such, so let’s start something here.”

I think his mindset was to… He had already embraced the design thinking mindset where you test things out, you prototype it, and then if something doesn’t work, then you reiterate on it. He had a playful mindset himself, so that encouraged us to be bold and accept that. And I think that played a crucial role. He never expected us to be perfect. He didn’t say, if we walk into the room, we need to have answers to everything. That was a huge learning that I had from him.

Douglas:

Yeah. It also sounded like you were really curious throughout your tenure and just trying lots of different things and being persistent and following through on things, what helped you keep that drive and that curiosity and that willingness to explore new things? I could imagine some folks might lose steam or get frustrated or not stick through things. So what kept your passion alive there?

Varsha:

To be honest, that’s a question I keep asking myself even today, because I’m the kind who just jumps from one hobby to another. I don’t keep through with things. I’ve tried dancing, I’ve tried singing, I’ve done all sorts of things. But this is one thing that I think I’ve been doing it for six plus years now since the day I first walked into that room and learned about design thinking. Every time there is a workshop, every time there is some ideation session, I want to be the one who’s facilitating it. I want to be the one who’s driving it. I think one of the key things is when we walk into the room, there is a lot of chaos, there’s a lot of misalignment, and what do we do?

There’s a lot of confusion when we enter the room, and then by the end of it, people are so happy with the amount of ideas that were just generated and the amount of clarity that they get by the end of all those exercises and activities. And somewhere along the line, I think as we grow up, we got so used to doing things a certain way that we’ve lost touch with that creative side of the brain. As kids, we tried all sorts of things and we never stuck to a certain methodology or a structure, but I think it brings out that childish behavior, that childlike behavior, I shouldn’t say childish. But childlike curiosity, which makes the whole thing very special. And I think that’s kept me if I need to answer that question.

Douglas:

Yeah. It sounds like unlike some of the other things you’ve tried, this really connected in with something deep and meaningful that you just couldn’t let go of.

Varsha:

Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely.

Douglas:

And so also noticed reading your alumni story, the arc of building creative culture across three countries. There was the group, they’re in Bangalore, then Poland and now Netherlands.

Varsha:

Yeah.

Douglas:

So I’m curious what you’ve learned about facilitation from doing this work across these three different cultures around how people show up in different ways or just anything you’ve noticed about the differences or the similarities even.

Varsha:

Yeah, I think when I was facilitating back in India… And also it was more around very technical teams. So one thing that I’ve noticed is technical folks are very rooted in a structure. They have a certain way of working and introducing creative ways of working is something new to them, and it’s not as acceptable to these folks. But when I moved to Poland and I started the design thinking club, I think there was a lot more acceptance on or curiosity around how does this work? What does this contain? I think when it comes to cultures, I think Poland has been a lot more accepting in terms of being playful, but I think the culture is also getting better in India where people are open now to newer ways of working. But there was this initial resistance, especially from technical folks where they said, “Hey, what are you making us do? What are these sticky notes? What are these activities and energizers that you’re making us do?” But yeah, over time I think there’s been an acceptance around these new ways of working, these new ways of thinking even.

Douglas:

Coming back to the technical folks having a bit of resistance early on. When you look back on that, what were some of the things that helped them connect in with the purpose or understand more deeply why that was important? Or was it getting to the other end and realizing that, oh, there’s value in this, or was it some clarity that they were getting along the way? What was it that do you think that really helped them?

Varsha:

Yeah, it is definitely the clarity that they get along the way where we… Highlighting the fact that no matter how good your technology is, if it doesn’t connect with your customer, then that’s going to flop. So telling them or making them understand that important fact has played a very crucial role. So especially when you say, we did a lot of these training programs for technical leaders, so aspiring solution architects and technical leaders, because they need to get out of that structured or single one way of thinking into now how do we bring innovation within our company, within our teams, and how do we change that culture within our teams. So once they saw how design thinking works, I think they were a lot more accepting, thinking that this is something we need to embrace and it’s new, but it’s something that we need to embrace. So, yeah.

Douglas:

Yeah. You’re making me think too if the technology folks start to realize that, oh, we’re making this technology for humans. We need to think about the experience they have, and in order to explore that, maybe we need to use some tools that have a bit more human connection

Varsha:

Yeah.

Douglas:

So that we can get in that mode of understanding and thinking about and maybe empathizing with other humans.

Varsha:

Yeah. And I think it also helped when our organization itself was renamed as customer experience, so that put the customer at the center of everything that we do. So I think that changed a lot of our mindsets as well.

Douglas:

Yeah, it’s fascinating too, that you bring that up. Just naming the group had an impact. ‘Cause if you think about how those folks were showing up early on, they might’ve just been resistant because they were confused. They’re like, where am I at? Why is this team doing this thing? How does it fit in to the bigger picture? How does this impact the work I’m doing? But then you reframe it, you tell a different story around the fact that, “Hey, we’re helping with customer experience.” Now they’re showing up in a different way with a different expectation, and they say, “Oh, this is going to help customer experience. I see why we might be thinking about things a little different or even interacting with ourselves a little bit different. We might need to do some make believe because the customer’s not here.” If we need to think about them, we might be in a different mindset.

Varsha:

And I feel like the culture shift comes a lot from top down. What are your leaders speaking? What are their core values? So customer centricity was one of the biggest value that we had. As we shifted names, we became the customer experience organization, and I also became part of the customer success team where we had to be in front of customers day in, day out. Our job was to understand what the customers need and how we can help them. So I think that also played a huge role in the shift of the mindset. Yeah.

Douglas:

Yeah. Also, I remember you saying that facilitation actually disrupted the hierarchy you’re used to. Can you talk a little bit more about what that means and how it showed up in the rooms that you held?

Varsha:

Yeah, so if you remember, I said that our director, who’s one of the senior guys in our organization, he was at the door inviting people and then he was smiling and he was just encouraging people to be more present and to be involved in the whole process. And then we had our managers, our team leaders on the same table that we were sitting in. So we had our be it our team leads or solution architects, so who are senior in the team, and someone who just joined the team also contributing to the ideas that they were trying to pool in. So they were all solving the same problem of how do we help the customer, but they all belong to different grades.

One was talking from the perspective of managing a team, a manager. And a senior solution architect, he was bringing in his perspective, and then there was a person who just joined the team and she was bringing in her own perspective of what she thinks is happening with the customer and how she’s dealing with things. So it was a round table rather than that long table where we sit according to our grades.

Douglas:

I love that shifting from the long table to the round table and maybe flattening power structures. I love it.

Varsha:

Absolutely. Yeah. And then I think power structure, when you say about that, I have seen where managers said, “We don’t mind sitting out from this because we know that the dynamics might change if we are present in the room.” And because they understand the purpose of say that particular workshop or meeting where they want their employees to be more authentic and speak out. And I’ve seen managers sit out from certain meetings and the dynamics of the rooms completely change. So that’s also very powerful.

Douglas:

Yeah, it’s so fascinating and amazing when leaders realize that dynamic is there and are willing to do what it takes to make sure that we can still move forward to subdue that a bit.

Varsha:

Yeah, yeah, and I think I’ve been fortunate where I’ve worked with leaders who understand that and they know that it’s not about them, it’s more about the culture that’s already present and the biases that are present. So in order to remove them, they need to be out of the meetings. So that’s been a good thing.

Douglas:

Yeah, got to love the leaders that believe in we, not me.

Varsha:

Yeah.

Douglas:

So you made the leap from Cisco to independent facilitator. What was going through your head during that messy middle? I’m sure it was a little bit… It’s got to be scary, those moments. I know when I started Voltage Control, I was like, oh my gosh, what am I doing? So I’m just kind of curious, how did you finally make that decision and what was going through your head?

Varsha:

It was definitely the messiest middle that I’ve been in. I mean, I’ve done over a hundred workshops and I’ve seen a lot of messy middles, but this was a messy middle in my life. So I think when I decided to quit my tenured job as an employee to become an entrepreneur or a independent consultant, firstly, I was super scared. There were days when I could not sleep just thinking about what am I doing? I didn’t tell this to anyone except for my husband. So it was just me and my husband discussing this because I didn’t want anybody else’s opinions to sort of mess with my thinking. And I think that was the best decision because I really wanted to know if this is what I really want to do. And once I had that clarity that yes, I have been doing these workshops for six years now.

This is not a hobby anymore. This is something that I really love doing. I think I can figure things out on my own if I get the right kind of support. I actually designed think that phase of my life, I think. So I literally sat down and did a sailboat exercise, and I said, “What are the challenges that I’m facing right now? What is the things that are pulling me back or holding me back? And then what are my wins? What is helping me at the moment?” So I sat and did a whole exercise on what I need to do. By the end of that workshop that I did with myself, I had an action plan for the next 90 days. From the day I put my papers, or I rather told my manager that I’m going to be quitting, I had three months time, so I knew exactly when I woke up, what are the things that I need to do in order for me to go through this messy middle.

So automatically, I think my brain was like, this is not a difficult task, you know exactly what you’re going to do when you wake up, and this is what you’ve achieved in a week’s time. So I did have these check-ins with my husband every week I remember and I said, “This is what I’ve achieved. Look.” And I just felt good about having that clarity on where I’m moving, and I actually wanted to name my business Chaos to Clarity because I love the name, because that’s how I always saw my teams moving from chaos into clarity. And that’s how I felt at that moment when everything was just so chaotic and confusing and I moved through that into a space of clarity. I think that’s how I overcame my messy middle, and it was a huge benefit knowing these kind of methodologies exist that eventually ground you. I think that’s how I felt once those three months were done.

Douglas:

That’s really incredible. And I would argue you need a good compass to move through the chaos and get to clarity. So I think you still kept the name in that spirit.

Varsha:

Yeah, I took off with something that I really loved as well. It took a lot. I had all my design thinking, all my toolbox, books out with me, and then I was sifting through all the pages and I keep writing down all the names that I thought could help in naming this business and eventually was Idea and then how do you guide people with these ideas. So Compass came in and I’m happy with the name.

Douglas:

Yeah. And I wanted to talk a little bit too about compasses and journeys. You came to Voltage Control. It all started through one phone call with Eric that led to the certification and then the summit, and then co-leading or leading the Amsterdam region. And also that’s been a little bit of a journey for you anyway around leadership. And I’m just curious, your leap into the Voltage Control community and leading the region, what did that leap into the leadership teach you? What did you learn as you were going through some of those motions?

Varsha:

A lot of learning. I keep telling my husband this, that the amount of learning that I’ve had in the past six months, I don’t think I’ve learned so much throughout my career time. Because it’s like I’ve been put on fast track because I think I have to do everything on my own now and I don’t have someone teaching me, but having a community is so… I realize how important it is, especially when you don’t have a team or a boss to tell you this is what you need to do and these are our goals and stuff like that. But in those three months, this messy middle, my first goals was to get a formal certification in facilitation itself. So that I think was the basis or the foundation over which everything else is built up. So I don’t think all this would’ve been possible if I didn’t know that I’m already good, but this has made me even better.

So that’s the confidence that the certification gave me. And being around other facilitators who do the same kind of work that I do, and especially seeing other facilitators… Because I think facilitators do this out of a space of love and passion for what they do. Most facilitators that I’ve been working with, even in the community or on my LinkedIn community, they’ve all been extremely helpful. And I think empathy is where they all operate from, and that’s how I think the certification itself helped. I think before I even enrolled myself, I was already part of the community and I said, “I want to volunteer,” because putting myself in a volunteer position helped me grow a lot more than if I hadn’t been there. I was leading the solopreneur or independent facilitators community at Voltage Control, and through that I learned how to do organic marketing. For example, I didn’t have a single post on LinkedIn during my professional career at Cisco, but then I realized how important it is to be visible to your network to make sure your work is seen by others.

And that’s when I decided that I’m going to do a weekly post of all the learnings that I’m going to learn through the certification, and it helped me keep accountable both on my marketing and also my learnings. So that was a great start to both learning and marketing and yeah, that’s how I think the certification played a huge role. Being a part of the community and volunteering at the community helped. I think anyone who’s come to me after that, I said, “Just go join the community first. See how the vibe is. Volunteer if you want to learn about facilitation and especially if you are starting on a new path in the facilitation space, this is a great space to be in.” I think that’s how it played a huge role.

Douglas:

Yeah, amazing. And looking ahead for what’s next. Gosh, I think it’s so much potential when you think about the moment you’re in and growing a business and whatnot, and I’m curious, what’s one hope or vision you have for the future of your work, either in your own practice or for the future of the field at large.

Varsha:

Yeah. And I think I realized as I was building the business and what I wanted to do, also the coaching calls with Eric helped a lot when I was trying to figure this out. I realized how much I love innovation. Also, people say innovation is a very broad term, but to me it’s about creating something new. It’s about using what you have and the creative powers that you’ve got to make the world a better place. And for me to be able to play a part in that is a huge win for me. And I think that is what keeps me driving. And I think our world has a lot of problems that can be solved and the place can be made a lot better than what it is now. And that’s what I see for my future and for the future of IdeaCompass at the moment.

Douglas:

As we come to a close here, I’d like to invite you to leave our listeners with a final thought.

Varsha:

That’s a deep question, final thoughts. I think if there’s one thing that I had to say is to my technical folks, I keep saying before every workshop, “Trust the process.” And if you are in any workshop, creative workshop like this, switch off the rational mindset and switch off the skeptic mindset to embrace what’s coming through in your workshop. It doesn’t matter if I’m facilitating or if there’s anyone else facilitating, because that makes a huge difference in the output of the workshop itself. I think that would be something that I really want my listeners to… If there are technical folks or if there are skeptical folks who are entering the workshop, that is something that I would like to tell.

Douglas:

I think we could all learn from that, right? Let’s put our guards down because our assumptions and all of our prior learnings inform those guards, and if we want to innovate, we got to put those guards down and be open to almost anything. And then we can of course put up the spectacles, pull up the guards, start to criticize stuff, but let’s wait a little bit before we start doing that and create some space for it. So I think that’s great advice, and not only for your techies, but for anybody, because I think we all get set in our ways and could use a dose of like, let’s ignore our best advice and try to come up with some good stuff here.

Varsha:

Absolutely. Yeah. I think the energy just shifts when people enter with that kind of mindset. And as facilitators, I’ve seen a lot of facilitators try their best to create an environment where those fears, where those biases are shut down. But as participants, if there is an effort from there end, then that’s a powerful workshop.

Douglas:

I couldn’t have said it better. Varsha, it’s been a pleasure chatting with you today. I hope we can do it again soon sometime.

Varsha:

Absolutely, Douglas, thank you so much for having me and having this wonderful platform for facilitators to share their learnings, their experiences. I love listening to your podcasts, and I hope there are many more other folks who can join the podcast and we learn from them.

Douglas:

Thanks for joining me for another episode of the Facilitation Lab Podcast. If you enjoyed the episode, please leave us a review and be sure to subscribe and receive updates when new episodes are released. We love listener tales and invite you to share your facilitation stories. Send them to us on LinkedIn or via email. If you want to know more, head over to our blog where I post weekly articles and resources about facilitation, team dynamics and collaboration at voltagecontrol.com.

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At a recent Facilitation Lab in Dallas, an interesting tension emerged. Some participants expressed a need to do more planning, while others realized they needed to loosen their grip and be more adaptive. It was a moment that perfectly captured the spectrum of growth in facilitation. And it pointed to something deeper than any single method, activity, or tool: the importance of competency-based practice.

At Voltage Control, we’ve seen firsthand how competencies—foundational skills that are observable, transferable, and practicable—enable facilitators to grow beyond reliance on static methods. While methods are valuable, they can become crutches. A competency-based approach, on the other hand, provides a durable structure for reflective growth, adaptive leadership, and collaborative impact.

That’s why, in our Facilitation Certification and across all our programming, we center our work around five core competencies: Purpose, Inclusive, Clarity, Crafted, and Adaptive. These competencies create a common language for facilitators to assess where they are, reflect on what’s working, and grow with intentionality. In this month’s newsletter, we’ll explore what each competency means and how they come to life—highlighting one of our favorite exercises, Nine Whys, and giving a nod to the Facilitation Superpowers tool that helps build reflective muscles.

What Are Competencies (And Why Should We Care?)

Competencies are the skill sets and behaviors that transcend any one facilitation method or context. Think of them as the core building blocks of great facilitation—portable, observable, and repeatable. While methods can be learned and deployed, competencies are practiced and honed.

The reason they matter is simple: facilitation isn’t about running perfect activities. It’s about being able to read the room, adjust in real time, and bring people along. And that kind of capacity can’t be downloaded from a template. It’s grown over time through practice, feedback, and reflection.

A competency-based approach to learning shifts the focus from “Did I use the tool right?” to “Did I show up in a way that supported the group’s purpose?” This opens the door to reflection, growth, and adaptability. Because competencies are observable, they also give us a way to assess progress—whether we’re doing that ourselves, in community with others, or within a structured certification program.

In short, competencies give us a clear, common language for growth. They allow us to get specific about what great facilitation looks like and help us avoid the trap of confusing motion with progress.

Building with Competencies—The Foundation of Our Certification

Our Facilitation Certification is designed from the ground up to help people grow through competencies. From day one, participants are introduced to five core areas that form the foundation of the program: Purpose, Inclusive, Clarity, Crafted, and Adaptive. Each one maps to a set of habits and mindsets that great facilitators practice regularly.

By anchoring in competencies, we’re able to be method-agnostic. We don’t teach one framework or approach—we help people understand the why behind the method and equip them to decide what’s best for their group and their goals. That flexibility is crucial, especially for facilitators working across diverse industries, cultures, and challenges.

Competency-based learning is also deeply practical. We create opportunities for participants to get reps in—not just running activities, but making decisions, facilitating discussions, and navigating ambiguity. And because competencies are observable, we’re able to give meaningful, grounded feedback that accelerates growth.

This approach culminates in a portfolio—a living artifact that represents a facilitator’s growth across the five competencies. But more than a final deliverable, the portfolio is a practice: a cycle of reflection, experimentation, feedback, and adjustment.

Purpose – The Compass of Great Facilitation

Of all the competencies, Purpose is first for a reason. Without a clear understanding of why we are gathering, who we’re serving, and what we hope to achieve, everything else risks going sideways. Purpose is the compass that guides every facilitation decision—from who to invite, to what methods to use, to how to handle challenges in the moment.

But purpose isn’t always obvious. We often assume it’s clear, or we avoid interrogating it because the conversation feels tedious or political. Yet when we make the time to surface it, we often uncover powerful insights—and sometimes, deep misalignments.

One of our favorite tools to do this is Nine Whys, a simple but profound activity from the Liberating Structures repertoire. The activity begins with a basic question like, “What’s the purpose of this project?” or “What drives you to do this work?” Then, working in pairs, one partner interviews the other by repeatedly asking, “Why is that important to you?” The goal is to peel back layers until you hit something essential, something felt. Often, the ninth why reveals the true motivation that has been hiding under layers of assumption.

We’ve seen this activity shift entire trajectories. In one cohort, a facilitator working in the public sector initially described her purpose as “helping people navigate civic spaces.” After a deep Nine Whys session and continued reflection through her portfolio, she reframed her purpose as “creating real community in an era of algorithmic isolation.” That clarity changed how she approached her work—and how she described its value to others.

Inclusive – Designing for Belonging and Bravery

If Purpose is the compass, Inclusion is the heartbeat. Once we’re clear on why we’re gathering, the next question is: who should be in the room to support that purpose—and how can we ensure every voice matters?

Inclusive facilitation means more than inviting a diverse group. It means creating the conditions for all participants to feel safe, seen, and heard. It also requires deliberate choices about who not to include in a given moment—what Priya Parker calls “purposeful exclusion.” This isn’t about gatekeeping. It’s about being strategic in service of the group’s outcomes.

True inclusion surfaces hidden voices, supports dissent, and creates the psychological safety necessary for generative conflict. And it’s essential for navigating the messy, often emotional terrain of group work. Without it, you get artificial harmony at best—and dysfunction at worst.

Facilitators who build this competency learn to see the system: to recognize power dynamics, honor lived experience, and make space for authenticity. When inclusion is practiced well, people feel it. They open up. They step in. And real transformation becomes possible.

Clarity – Making the Invisible Visible

Clarity is about translating purpose and inclusion into concrete action. It’s what allows a group to move forward together without confusion or hesitation. And it’s often the difference between a workshop that feels powerful and one that feels chaotic.

Facilitators must bring clarity and seek it. That means designing with clear goals, crisp prompts, and focused outcomes. It also means actively listening for moments of confusion, misalignment, or hesitation—and addressing them in real time.

In our certification program, we emphasize how even small design choices can create clarity: the way you structure breakout prompts, the visuals you use to frame a discussion, the transitions between moments. Every one of these details can reinforce (or undermine) a group’s ability to make progress.

Clarity is especially vital in hybrid and high-stakes environments. The more ambiguity a group is facing, the more important it is for the facilitator to illuminate the path. That might mean naming the uncertainty, framing the choices, or simply slowing down to ensure everyone is on the same page.

Crafted – Intentionally Designing the Experience

Crafted is where preparation meets artistry. It’s the act of designing an experience—not just an agenda—that will carry a group from where they are to where they need to go. And it’s not just about structure. It’s about emotion, energy, and flow.

Facilitators who develop this competency don’t just copy/paste old decks or run the same three methods every time. They ask: what does this group need? What emotional arc will support their journey? What choices can I make in pacing, framing, and modality to help them succeed?

Being crafted also means holding your design loosely. Yes, you’ve made a plan—but you’re also ready to pivot. In fact, the best designs are the ones that make room for emergence.

This is where the craft of facilitation shines. It’s not about perfection. It’s about intention. A well-crafted experience sets the stage for insight, connection, and forward momentum—even if it doesn’t go exactly as planned.

Adaptive – The Pinnacle of Facilitator Growth

If Purpose is the foundation and Crafted is the container, Adaptive is the dance. It’s the ability to respond in the moment—to shift based on what’s needed, not just what was planned.

Adaptive facilitators don’t panic when the room goes quiet, or when conflict arises, or when someone challenges the agenda. They adjust. They trust their presence, their preparation, and their purpose.

This competency is often the most elusive. It can only be built through reps—through showing up, trying things, reflecting, and adjusting. And it’s why the other four competencies matter so much. The more grounded you are in purpose, inclusion, clarity, and craft, the more confident you’ll be when you need to flex.

At the Dallas Facilitation Lab, some participants realized they needed to let go more. Others saw they needed to plan more. Both realizations were right. Adaptive isn’t about being spontaneous for its own sake. It’s about knowing when to adapt—and how.

Reflective Growth – The Portfolio as a Practice

Growth isn’t just about doing—it’s about noticing. That’s why we anchor our certification in reflective practice. And the heart of that reflection is the portfolio.

In our program, participants build a portfolio that showcases their growth across all five competencies. But the real value isn’t the final product. It’s the process of creating it. Asking: What happened? Why did it matter? What would I do differently next time?

Some participants stick with our Miro template. Others remix it into pitch decks, websites, or storybooks. One facilitator in Hawaii built her portfolio around the metaphor of traditional irrigation—using water flow to illustrate each competency. That creativity is itself a sign of deep engagement and reflection.

For those not in the program yet, the Facilitation Superpowers template is a great starting point. It helps you reflect on where you shine, where you want to grow, and what stories you’re already telling through your work.

A Call to Practice with Purpose

Facilitation is not about running perfect exercises. It’s about showing up with intention, curiosity, and the courage to lean into uncertainty. It’s about being a mirror, a compass, and a guide—often all at once.

Competency-based growth is how we get there. It gives us a common language, a shared focus, and a structure that supports both individual reflection and collective learning.

If you’re looking for a place to start, try Nine Whys. Ask yourself, or a colleague, “Why is that important to you?”—and keep going. You might be surprised by what you find. Or explore the Facilitation Superpowers to identify your strengths and your edges.

And if you want to go deeper, join us in the Facilitation Lab or explore our Facilitation Certification. Because this work isn’t about checking a box—it’s about growing into the facilitator you’re meant to be.

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When I think back to the moment that changed everything, it was a day-long design thinking workshop at Cisco. Our new director announced it almost casually, and I remember thinking, “Wait, what is this? A meeting that lasts a whole day?” I was curious, but skeptical. Then I walked into the room. Flip charts. Sticky notes. Music playing. Bright colors and warm welcomes. Nothing like the grey, boxy meeting rooms I was used to. That shift in space and energy felt like stepping into a different world.

We weren’t just talking about customer experience; we were creating solutions in real time. Ideas were flying. People were energized. We went from asking big questions to building real ideas together. It was the first time I felt every part of my brain switch on, both the analytical and the creative. After that session, I walked straight up to my director, Vivasvan Shastri,who we affectionately called Vivaand said, ‘I want to do more of this.’ He didn’t hesitate. Viva was the kind of leader who believed in experimentation and empowering his team. He invited me to shadow him in future workshops, and that’s where my journey as a facilitator truly began.

He told me he was facilitating these sessions himself and welcomed me to shadow him. That was the beginning. I didn’t know it was called “facilitation” at the time. I just knew I loved it. Even when I wasn’t getting paid for these sessions, even if it meant late nights or working with teams I’d never met, I said yes. For six years, I said yes again and again.

Even during the height of COVID, we found ways to recreate the magic virtually,using Webex to design breakouts and maintain connection. I kept learning and growing, and somewhere along the way, I realized this wasn’t just a hobby. This was me discovering who I really was.

What struck me most was how facilitation disrupted the rigid hierarchies I was used to in corporate life. It created a horizontal space where ideas mattered more than titles, where collaboration felt authentic. It was a world where creativity had a seat at the table, and everyone had a voice. That contrast made me realize just how powerful these spaces could be,and how much more alive I felt in them. It wasn’t just a better way to work. It was a better way to be.

Building Creative Culture in Bangalore and Beyond

Back then, I was based in Bangalore, working in Cisco’s customer experience team as part of professional services. I’d started as a network consulting engineer,. Once I got hooked on design thinking, I became one of the founding members of an internal Design Thinking Club. Whenever someone needed a session, they called us.

We ran training programs for aspiring leaders, facilitated strategy alignment workshops, and brought design thinking into the core learning path for technical architects. It started with four or five of us, and then more junior team members started joining in. We taught them how to facilitate, how to bring others into this new way of working. I had no idea facilitation could be a full career.I just knew it was something I couldn’t stop doing.

Eventually, I moved to Cisco’s Poland office. That meant starting over. Nobody was doing this work there yet, which actually became my opportunity. I introduced the idea with a simple Design Thinking 101 workshop for my team. Then I pitched it to others-the innovation lead, people who were curious. Word spread. Folks from across Cisco remembered me from my Bangalore days and reached out. Viva, my mentor, even connected me with people in the Poland office. It all came together.

We started doing innovation challenges, hackathons, even design sprints for Cisco partner companies. These weren’t giant corporations.They were small startups with raw ideas. They needed structure, speed, and support. That’s when I really fell in love with the process. Helping people go from vague ideas to tangible solutions in a matter of days? That felt like magic.

A Leap into the Sea

After three years in Poland, my husband and I decided to move to the Netherlands. I tried for over a year to make that relocation happen internally within Cisco. I did stretch assignments, shadowing programs and everything I could think of to show initiative. But the timing wasn’t right. Between the war in Ukraine and the economic downturn, things stalled.

I started to question everything. I had always identified as a “corporate person.” Was I really ready to walk away? And if I did, what would I do? I loved innovation and facilitation, but could I build a career around that? That messy middle forced me to go deep.

Through research, I discovered that facilitation is not just a skill,it’s a profession. That lit a fire. I’d been facilitating for years, but never formally trained in it. I knew I needed to invest in myself. I came across an article comparing facilitation programs. It had all the details: cost, curriculum, who it was for. That’s how I found Voltage Control.

I applied for the certification and joined the community hub. Almost immediately, Lina welcomed me. Within minutes, I was invited to a volunteer call, where I met Robin. She said, “The best way to learn is to jump in.” So I did. I asked, “Is there a community here for independent facilitators?” She said, “No, but you can start it.”

Jumping In, Building Together

That conversation with Robin was the beginning of our independent facilitator community. I reached out to Adriana, who I had met at a Facilitation Lab Practice Playground. I said, “Want to co-lead this with me?” She said yes immediately. Our energies clicked right away, and soon we were co-hosting our first huddle.

At first, I wasn’t sure if I was ready. I remember saying to Robin, “Can I really lead something like this? I just joined the community.” But she encouraged me wholeheartedly. “Don’t worry about it,” she said. “You’ll have all the support you need. If you’d like a co-lead, we’ll help you find one.” That kind of trust and encouragement,before I’d even proven anythingwas incredible. It made me feel like I belonged.

Adriana and I got on a call to brainstorm what this community could be. I shared my vision for a space where independent facilitators could lean on each other, share resources, and talk about the challenges that come with building a practice solo. She was equally excited, and we got aligned quickly. It was clear that we were creating something we both wished we had earlier in our journey.

When we posted about launching the community, the response was overwhelming. I think it was the most engaged post I’d seen in the hub. So many independent facilitators needed support. They needed connection. And here we were, building it together. That was the moment I realized Voltage Control wasn’t just a certification program. It was a real, living community,one that empowers you to lead even before you feel “ready.”

Confidence Through Clarity

When I first considered the certification, I hesitated. It was a big investment, and I wasn’t used to paying for training out of pocket. I reached out to Jamie and asked if I could speak with the instructors. Erik got on a call with me, and I had 30 minutes before I needed to catch a bus. But just 15 minutes into the call, I made up my mind.. He listened. He understood. He didn’t try to sell me. He simply saw me.

That same night, I enrolled.

From the very first week, it felt like going back to school. Books, readings, rich conversations. I devoured The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker and started posting weekly reflections on LinkedIn,something I never thought I’d do. The cohort was incredibly diverse, which opened my eyes to how facilitation shows up across cultures and disciplines. Conflict resolution, DEI, design thinking and so many more..

Working on my portfolio helped me clarify my purpose. What kind of clients do I want to serve? What kind of work gives me energy? The portfolio became the foundation for my website and outreach strategy. And the coaching calls with Eric were everything. He didn’t give generic advice. He helped me find my path.

Holding Space That Transforms

Since completing the certification, I’ve facilitated several projects. But one stands out.

Adriana and I hosted a Women’s Day workshop. Our goal was to create a safe space where women could share their fears, challenges, and hopes. What happened in that session moved me deeply. Women shared stories of job loss, personal injury, and two years of unemployment. They felt seen. They connected.

One woman realized she was obsessing over job hunting not because it was her real priority, but because she thought it should be. Through the session, she saw that her health and personal goals were where she wanted to focus. That insight changed everything for her. As facilitators, we carry a responsibility to hold space for transformation. That day, I felt it fully.

Designing What’s Next

Right now, I’m exploring the Foundation Sprint framework recently shared by Jake Knapp. I’m passionate about helping early-stage startups navigate ambiguity and bring ideas to life. I’ve used the sprint process for my own business and seen how clarifying it can be.

My focus is now on working with founders and product teams,people who are creating something new and need help getting out of their heads and into collaboration. I plan to partner with founder meetups and startup hubs to bring this work to more people.

If you’re considering the certification, don’t wait. Just go for it. Especially if you’re thinking about a career change, this can be your foundation. It gave me the confidence to leave corporate life and step into my role as an independent facilitator. It’s not just about learning tools,it’s about discovering your purpose and stepping into it with clarity and support.

This isn’t just a program. It’s a turning point.

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At this year’s Facilitation Lab Summit, we explored the theme of Practice—not as something passive or theoretical, but as a verb. A doing. A commitment to growth. Whether you joined us in Austin or from across the globe, the summit invited all of us to sharpen our skills, embrace experimentation, and reflect on what it means to truly be in practice as facilitators.

We’re grateful to the eight incredible facilitators who led sessions across two days of hands-on learning, connection, and transformation. Each brought their unique lens to the craft of facilitation, offering tools, stories, and experiences we can carry forward in our own work. Here’s a look back at what we practiced together:

Skye Idehen-Osunde

The Safety Net: Building Credibility and Psychological Safety in Workshops

Skye opened the summit with energy and intention, guiding us through a powerful session focused on building trust and psychological safety. Through interactive exercises and honest conversation, she invited us to reflect on how we show up as facilitators and what it means to earn credibility in the spaces we hold. Skye reminded us that safety doesn’t happen by chance—it’s something we cultivate through consistency, care, and courage.

Her session offered practical techniques to design workshops that center psychological safety from the start. We explored how body language, tone, facilitation structure, and group norms can either foster or fracture trust. Most importantly, Skye reminded us that psychological safety is a moving target—something that requires continuous attention and repair. Her tools helped us feel more equipped to meet that challenge with compassion and clarity.

Alyssa Coughlin

Change Through Stories: Capturing Hearts and Aligning Minds

Alyssa took us deep into the world of storytelling as a facilitation tool for change. With warmth and clarity, she helped us understand why stories are more than just communication—they’re bridges. In any change process, people are looking for meaning, for belonging, and for their role in what’s unfolding. Alyssa showed us how compelling stories can align teams and move them forward together.

Participants explored the anatomy of a story that truly sticks: one that centers emotion, includes relatable characters, and speaks directly to the “what’s in it for me.” Using real-world examples and structured frameworks, Alyssa led us through exercises that helped us articulate narratives with clarity and resonance. By the end of the session, we had a clearer sense of how storytelling can transform resistance into connection.

Kathy Ditmore

Mapping Your Change Journey

Kathy’s session brought structure and insight to the often messy work of navigating change. Through the lens of facilitation, she unpacked how to guide teams through transitions using clarity, empathy, and smart design. We worked through frameworks that helped us identify project misalignment, engage the right stakeholders, and create shared understanding—especially in moments when change feels stuck or overwhelming.

One of the standout moments of her session was a group pre-mortem exercise that helped us uncover potential pitfalls before they derail a change effort. Kathy also shared practical strategies for rescuing projects that have gone off track, including how to uncover root causes and recalibrate purpose. Her guidance was both strategic and human-centered, reminding us that successful change is a journey—and we, as facilitators, are its guides.

Dom Michalec

Facilitating Transformation: How Small Changes Change Everything

Dom invited us to rethink how we approach transformation by zooming in on behavior design. Drawing from Stanford research and his own facilitation practice, he shared how small, specific changes can lead to profound results. Through real-life stories and a mix of theory and application, we explored how habit formation can be a powerful lever for sustained change.

Participants learned how to apply models like B=MAP (Behavior = Motivation, Ability, Prompt) to their own facilitation goals and client work. Dom’s energetic and relatable style made it easy to see how we might bring these insights into everyday practice—whether we’re helping teams adopt new behaviors or individuals cultivate lasting habits. His session left us feeling like we had gained a new superpower: the ability to shape change one small step at a time.

Dr. Karyn Edwards, PCC

The Secrets of Applying Executive Coaching to Facilitation

Dr. Karyn’s session was a masterclass in blending facilitation and coaching. She introduced us to the principles of non-directive coaching and demonstrated how these techniques can unlock greater participation and agency in group settings. By stepping back from the role of “expert,” facilitators can empower participants to discover their own insights and solutions—leading to deeper engagement and more lasting outcomes.

We experienced firsthand how asking the right kinds of questions, listening with intention, and creating reflective space can transform a group’s dynamic. Through practice and discussion, Dr. Karyn helped us develop personalized strategies for bringing coaching mindsets into our facilitation work. Her session reinforced a powerful message: that facilitation isn’t about steering—it’s about holding space for others to steer themselves.

JJ Rogers

Radical Acts of Delight

JJ reminded us that facilitation can—and should—include joy. Her session, focused on delight as a design strategy, was a breath of fresh air. We explored how small moments of surprise, humor, and care can build trust, deepen engagement, and make sessions more memorable. Through interactive exercises, she invited us to intentionally design for delight, not just as a “nice to have” but as a core component of impact.

Participants reflected on their own facilitation style and considered where delight shows up—or where it’s missing. JJ offered a toolkit of strategies that anyone can adapt, regardless of content or audience. From playful warm-ups to sensory design, her session was a reminder that joy is not frivolous—it’s transformative. And sometimes, the most radical thing we can do as facilitators is invite people to feel good while they learn.

Caterina Rodriguez

Enhancing Facilitation Through Nonverbal Communication

Caterina’s session offered a fresh look at something often overlooked in facilitation: nonverbal communication. Through movement, observation, and structured practice, we explored how our facial expressions, gestures, posture, and tone shape the way participants feel in our sessions. Caterina helped us build awareness of our own nonverbal cues and decode those of others, all while maintaining a culturally sensitive lens.

We also examined how cultural norms influence body language and how misinterpretation can impact trust and inclusion. Caterina’s practical exercises helped us fine-tune our presence, improve our “nonverbal listening,” and build deeper connection with our groups. Her message was clear: when words fall short, our bodies still speak—and as facilitators, we need to be fluent in that language too.

Elena Farden

Consent as Ceremony: Learnings from Nurturing Safe Connections in Indigenous Play Parties

Elena brought the summit to a meaningful close with a deeply reflective session that blended facilitation, culture, and intimacy. Drawing from her experience facilitating Indigenous play parties, she introduced a ceremonial approach to consent—one rooted in gratitude, sovereignty, and sacredness. Her framing helped us reimagine how we create consent-based spaces, not just in intimate contexts, but in all group settings.

Participants explored practices for nurturing trust and honoring autonomy, from how we open a session to how we invite participation. Elena’s teachings emphasized slowing down, listening deeply, and treating facilitation as a form of care. Her session reminded us that facilitation is not just about process—it’s about presence. And sometimes, the most powerful thing we can practice is reverence.

Facilitation Lab Summit 2025 was a celebration of the art of practice—a place to experiment, reflect, connect, and grow. Whether you left with a new toolkit, a powerful story, or a shift in mindset, we hope this year’s summit reminded you that facilitation is not about perfection—it’s about showing up again and again with curiosity and care.

You can read full recaps of each session on our blog. And if you’re looking to keep your practice going, join us at our weekly Facilitation Lab meetups—where the learning never stops.

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At the 2025 Facilitation Lab Summit, Elena Farden led an immersive session titled “Consent as Ceremony: Learnings from Nurturing Safe Connections in Indigenous Play Parties.” Elena, known for weaving cultural rituals and deep respect for consent into her facilitation practice, provided profound insights into how we can integrate these sacred traditions into our own work.

The session began with Elena’s warm aloha and a traditional chant, or oli, inviting ancestors to guide the participants. Through this powerful opening, Elena demonstrated the importance of connecting with the land and community—using rituals to ground and center both the facilitator and the participants. This deep, intentional connection is foundational in her work, and she encouraged everyone to explore how their own rituals can help deepen their connection to the spaces they facilitate.

Relational Accountability

One of the core practices explored was relational accountability, or the idea that facilitators are shaped by their place, their ancestry, and their community. Elena asked participants to reflect on their “mauna” (mountain) and “wai” (water), asking them to think about the places that sustain and connect them. This exercise wasn’t just about physical geography—it was about understanding how our stories, identities, and the places we come from shape our perspectives and our practices. It was a deeply reflective practice, encouraging each participant to consider how their own background and context influence their facilitation.

The session also explored the power of consent—not just as an ask but as an offering. Elena guided participants through a simple yet profound exercise: Janken Po Rockstar, a playful take on rock-paper-scissors that allowed participants to practice offering and receiving with full consent. By integrating play, Elena demonstrated how consent can be woven into the very fabric of facilitation, creating space for vulnerability, trust, and authentic connection.

Elena also shared her unique perspective on indigenous play spaces, explaining how these communities use clear, structured rituals to ensure that participants are both physically and psychologically safe. Consent, she emphasized, is not just about asking for permission; it is about creating a reciprocal space where both the offering and the receiving are valued equally.

Gratitude Circle

The workshop culminated in a gratitude circle, where participants were invited to express appreciation for those around them. This circle, filled with non-sexual but consensual physical touch, offered a moment for reflection on how physical touch can help deepen connection and build trust in a facilitated space. The exercise left participants moved and reflective, with many sharing that it had been an important step in rebuilding trust and intimacy after the isolation of the pandemic.

Elena’s session was a powerful reminder of the importance of bringing intentionality and care into every step of our facilitation practices. By weaving together consent, cultural practices, and deep relational care, Elena provided the tools to build safer, more inclusive spaces for everyone involved.

Watch the full video below:

Transcript of Elena’s Session:

Elena Farden:
[foreign language 00:00:14]. So aloha to all of you with gratitude and love and compassion. My name is Elena Farden. I am from Ka’aihe’e in Makiki on the island of Oahu, and I grew up in Kaimuki. I ask for your indulgence in just a quick moment to allow me to open the space in a way that I do within my practice. And then, I would love to be able to share this with you to see how you might share this in your practice.

MUSIC:
[foreign language 00:00:53].

Elena Farden:
This chant or oli that I offer with you is something that’s written for all of us, not just for those that grew up and was born in Hawaii. But this is an opening mele or song or chant that we often use when we’re entering into new spaces. And we’re basically asking for our ancestors and those past and present to be with us. Huna o na mea, huna no’eau show us those hidden teachings, those learnings that are there. And E Hō Mai is really asking them, in this journey, let us not be alone. Come be with us. We invite you in with us. We invite you to guide us.

So I share this with you and ask as you’re looking at these words that may be a little bit different from you. How as you as a facilitator? What are your rituals? And how you’re connecting relationship and intention when you come into a new space? I believe we all have these rituals. It may not look like this, but there are ways in which your rituals and your practice can deepen your intention when you’re coming into different spaces that may have different beliefs or different culture. So we’ll share a little bit more about that.

Before I do, and thank you for allowing me that time, a proper introduction of who I am. I shared my greeting earlier. I asked for knowledge to be here, but who am I as a person? Again, Elena Kavai’ala Uluwehi Onau’una Saba’ina’el Farden. You can call me Elena. I answer to almost anything. I’m born and raised on the island of Oahu in Hawaii. I was born under the Malu or the protection of Le’ahi, which is here. You may know it as a different name or Diamond Head, an iconic mountain that we have in Waikiki. It is known for its shape that looks like the tuna of the fish.

And in ancient times prior to tourism and our overpopulation, it was used to light the way for ships that were out at sea to come home. So I think about this place as I might do in my facilitation. What is the light that I’m wanting to bring? How do I help guide them back if they are something that needs to be rescued? How do I bring things home that belong home? And then with the same mauna or mountain, the rains that sustain me, the fresh water that sustain me, so that I can be abundant and sustain myself and grow. The name of that rain is Apuakehau, and it means a basket of dew.

This is also the name of the rain and the stream. And there was so much rain, so much so that within Waikiki itself, it was known as a very abundant place of fertile land, lots of food in order to grow and feed thousands and thousands of people. So these are the two things that guide me. And when I introduce myself to new places, I always connect them to a place. What is my mauna? What is my mountain? What is my fresh water source? So I’m going to ask and take some time for you folks to do the same thing. You have on your tables. So we’re going to delight in some joy.

And I’m going to ask you to take about five to seven minutes, and think about where you come from. What is your mauna or your mountain? And what is your wai or your fresh water source? I am learning from Adam that Dallas does not have a mountain range. No. So if you do not think about a landmark, I think on day one there was a participant in this back corner perhaps who had shared one of the trailing edges with Dom’s presentation that one of her things is to look out the window to see the Golden Gate Bridge.

So if this is a landmark, a city skylinescape, something that connects you to that place. It may not be a mountain, then I want you to think about that and draw that. If you don’t know your water source, you may be as Alyssa is here, an ocean person. She needs to be near the ocean. You can identify a saltwater source. So let’s take a few minutes. And perhaps if we have some music, but if not, it’ll just be me and you thinking through your mountain and your freshwater source.
All right, I know we still have folks drawing. You’re going to still be able to hold on to them, and we’ll still have some time. You’ll have a minute to share this out in just a little bit. But as we are moving forward, I just want you to continue to think about what is your mountain, your mauna, your landmark? What is it that tethers you to a place that allows you to have a relationship that you do? And with that, also thinking about what sustains you, and why is it so important that you tie your identity to a place?

So relational accountability. When we’re coming into places, we are not coming in as individuals. We’re coming in as people that are shaped by our place where we come from. It could be our organization, it could be where we grew up, it could be our childhood. We are also shaped by our ancestry. So not just your own ethnic heritage. But for example, coming into this space here, I might change the way I introduce myself by the ancestry or genealogy of my knowledge. I am an alumna of the Voltage Control Facilitation Certification program.

These are ways that I want to connect. Why is it important for me to connect? Because I want to know, Adam’s from Dallas, but his parents are from Wyoming. I’m from Hawaii, but I’m trying to build connection. What is it something that we have in common besides eating tacos from a truck in a dive bar, right? These are things that I’m looking for as I think about the reciprocal framework of these things. So on the other side here in this picture I have He aha kau hana? I know I wrote it in Hawaiian.

I was thinking English. But basically it’s saying, what is your work? What is your hana? Your hana is your work. So I want you to think of your reciprocal framework as, how am I reframing how I introduce myself by my connection, by my belonging and my purpose? It sounds nebulous, but we’re going to talk it through together. And your mauna, your mountain and your wai or your river will come into play with that. So this is mine. Connection is meaning where am I coming from?
So coming into a place, whether it’s here or in Hawaii or in a new community context, I might say, “My name is Elena. I’m coming from the waters of Apuakehau sheltered by mauna le ahi famous for lighting the path home for those far out to sea. I’m connected to this space today here at the Facilitation Summit because I believe in facilitation as a powerful leadership practice that can steward a collective towards meaningful change.” It doesn’t have to be that long, but the connection is basically asking you, where are you coming from? What place? What organization? What’s your framing stepping into this place? Why are you here? What’s your purpose?

Belonging or influence. Growing up in Hawaii, we have a very big extended family. For those that are also similar in that space, people will often ask you, “Who do you belong to?” Or, “Who are your parents?” And basically, they’re asking that to say, “If you act up or get out of line, I need to know who to report to, so who do you belong to?” In this context, I’m asking, what are you carrying with you? Who do you belong to? What is your tie? Building on your connection. So for me, I might introduce myself using belonging influence as, I carry with me the wisdom of my ancestors and mentors that knowledge is a responsibility.

I also carry the teachings from Voltage Control as an alumna of the Facilitation Certification and facilitation practitioners of art of hosting and such communities that are dedicated to a deep community of practice for facilitators to lead with purpose and cultivate conversations that matter and foster growth. Obviously, I love to talk a long, long time. It doesn’t have to be this long. It can be short. But basically, who do you belong to in your influence is asking you, what are you carrying with you? What are you bringing into this space?

And then, last is purpose. Always building on the connection and the belonging. Why are you here? Why are you called to be here today? Why now? Why this place? And what is it that you’re bringing to add to this table of learning of knowledge? So for me, I would say, “And today I’m here to share what I know and what I’ve learned about rituals of consent and how I can support an authentic connection.” So back to your mauna and your wai as your tether to your place and identity.
I’m going to give you time now to also start to maybe write out or draw out your connection. I come from where? Where are you coming from? Your belonging, I carry with me this. My purpose, I should say your purpose. And today, I’m here to share this, to gain this, to do this, to feel this, to accept this. Can I help care for any questions with connection, belonging, and purpose as you folks begin to script out your identity and your introduction?

All right, so working individually is helpful, helps us to zone in on our thoughts, get something down. But we are social creatures by nature. We know that we need each other. So I’m going to ask you to work or invite you to work in pairs and to share your introduction with someone else, either on your table or someone next to your table to help you with… And I’ll put it back once. Your connection, your belonging, and your purpose, introductions or your statements. I’m asking you folks to also give each other feedback, ask questions throughout our sessions together in the past day. We’re leaning in with curiosity. We’re practicing. We’re being vulnerable. And can I help care for any questions, any instructions that need clarity, any support that I can provide?

Stephanie:
So you have a deep cultural and heritage. I come from nowhere and everywhere. What does that look like?

Elena Farden:
I would invite you to think about what are places that shaped you? It could be an organization. It could be a club or a team. It could be something about your hometown where you grew up that may not be your home, but something about that place. It could also be, for example, I grew up in Hawaii, but my young adulthood was spent in California going to college, I do consider Los Angeles a second home for me.

So in a way, I could pick two places. I could say within Glendale, California is also home for me. I could pick Deukmejian Mountain or Brand Park as maybe my mauna or the rivers that run through it. It could be something that way. So I would think about what are the places that shaped you, influenced you, impact you in your life. It doesn’t have to necessarily be the home you grew up in. It could be a different place. It could be a person, it could be a landmark, it could be a team. Is that helpful? Yeah. Good question. Other thoughts?

Speaker 4:
Stephanie, I was the same as you trying to figure what my Dallas connection is, but Mike gave me some great advice. He said, “Think back to your childhood.” And I grew up in Tatum. It’s a small town, but I drew it out, a farmhouse with a fire coming out of the fireplace, and we had 77 acres, and we had water on there for the cattle and for the horses. And I drew all that out because that’s really kind of my home. When I think about what’s really my home, where I came from.

Elena Farden:
That’s beautiful.

Speaker 4:
Yeah.

Elena Farden:
This is where your heart feel it’s most full.

Speaker 4:
Yeah.

Elena Farden:
Yes.

Speaker 4:
I have fond memories of my childhood.

Elena Farden:
Where you feel you’re most yourself.

Speaker 4:
Yes.

Elena Farden:
Where you can come in and people actually, “I know you.” I don’t have to put on a front.

Speaker 4:
Yes.

Elena Farden:
This is me exactly who I am. It could be a karaoke bar, that could be a place that defines you. Everyone knows me, my name, and the songs that I want to sing. This is my place where I feel most at home. Any other questions before I ask you to work in a pair, just to get some help and feedback with your introduction. This is I know a different muscle than most may be used to in how you introduce yourself.

But I’ll share with you the importance of it when it comes to coming into a community. Okay. So with that, I’m going to ask that you folks find a pair or someone to work with on your table or next to your table. Share them what you have so far of your connection, belonging, and purpose, and get some helpful feedback.

All right. I’m going to ask a pair from table 3, 5, 8, and that last table in the back to share. I’m going to start with the table in the back. If you folks would like to share, if you folks were able to get through a full introduction. Or what are some of the emerging thoughts in introducing yourself in this way?

Debbie Baker:
[foreign language 00:17:33]. Hello, my name is Debbie Baker. I work for the Choctaw Nation and I’m also a tribal member. So I’m also trying to embrace my indigenous culture. It’s been a challenge because I didn’t grow up in it. I’ve only spent the last 10 years learning it. Sorry, I’m a little bit nervous because I’ve never really talked in Choctaw out loud to anybody, so.

Elena Farden:
Good for you.

Debbie Baker:
On a side note, my daughter is in an apprenticeship program where she’s learning to speak the language. She spends 40 hours a week learning, so I’m really proud about that. So one of the connections that I have, which I’ve always stated from the time that I got into the certification program is that my purpose is to bring back facilitation to my tribe because we used to make decisions in a communal fashion. We made decisions that were in the best interest of the tribe. We no longer do that. We have people at the top making corporate level decisions for our tribal members, and it breaks my heart. So I really want to figure out a way to bring that back into the culture of who we are in making decisions. Thank you.

Elena Farden:
Thank you for sharing that. A pair from table eight. Something that either you were able to finish it, your introduction, or what’s emerging for you, sort of introducing yourself in this framework or format.

Speaker 6:
So I was born in Mexico where you could see the Popocatépetl and the Iztaccíhuatl, which were the mountain ranges, and you can’t see them now because of the smog. In 1981, I moved to St. Paul, Minnesota with my family. And a big definition of that is the Mississippi River. So when my stepmother, when she died, we had her ashes going into the Mississippi River. That was her wish. I said, “I come to this place to represent myself. And yes and that space, which is my site. In this community of practice, I bring my sense of coaching and teaching and appreciation of this craft to connect, to enrich, and to build momentum.”

Elena Farden:
Mahalo. Thank you. It’s beautiful. All right. A pair from table five, and then three.

Annie Love:
Hi, I’m Annie Love. I’m from Seattle via Idaho. I grew up in the mountains of North Idaho. We have a big lake, amazing freshwater lake. Mountains and water have always been a part of my life, especially water. I’ve always been drawn to it. When I moved to Seattle, it’s all the mountains, it’s all the lakes, it’s the sound, it’s everything. It’s gorgeous. One of the things when I was growing up on the farm, it was for me, I had no close friends nearby, you know? So it was only at school that I got to hang out with friends. So it was a lot of time by myself.

And so, I just became an explorer. I had a pond. Sorry, I get nervous speaking. I had a pond that I could just take my canoe on. I had a tree house that I could climb. I would just dream up all these scenarios in my head, and it kind of has led me to where I am today. I’m a world traveler as a hobby. But for my job, I am in exploration. Geocaching is exploring the world through a really fun game. And so, my background has really brought me to where I can help share that with other people. And so, my journey and purpose is to help grow myself and not be a nervous speaker in front of my team at work, so that we can do our best to help everyone else become an explorer, so yeah.

Elena Farden:
Mahalo. Thank you. Being nervous just means that we care about what we’re sharing in the space, so thank you for that. All right. Table three, bring us home. Someone would like to share?

Doug:
Hi, I’m Doug. And we had a number of good things we talked about at our table. But myself, I grew up in the Midwest in a farm family and really bring with me a lot of heritage, and legacy, and trustworthiness, and wisdom from my ancestors. But I always wanted to live on a river. And I used to go canoeing down in Missouri. And finally, I had an opportunity to get some property in Virginia. So now I live in the mountains, in the Blue Ridge Mountains, on a river, and went kayaking 21 times last year on my river. So I love where I’m living now. I came here to this session, to this two-day session to really get better at being able to guide people and bring out the best in people when I facilitate.

Elena Farden:
Thank you, Doug. So from wanting to live on the water to helping people facilitate with that flow, to growing up in Mexico over the mountains that can no longer be seen, but knowing that the river in which the ashes of your mother lay are also carried with you, to wanting to be able to explore more because this is how we interact with the world. This is how we build relationship with the world to being able to revive and revitalize indigenous languages and practices and how we make decisions. So beautiful. Thank you everyone for sharing. I appreciate that.

So with that, we also want to build on this. And so that is, you’ve done your mountain, your water, your introduction, you’ve had that share and some feedback with a trusted partner. Now, it’s also knowing your name and knowing your intention. So as I shared earlier, my name, my given name is Elena. It is a Greek origin. It means light or enlightenment. And it also ties into the way I see myself and also my tether to my land. And with that, I think it also manifests certain types of characteristics in me. I am an Aries Sun, Leo Moon, Sagittarius Rising. It’s fire, fire, fire all the way through.

And that’s what you get when you have two Sagittarius that have a child. So this is what I am. But in knowing my name, it’s also many different names. So Elena, I call it my taxpayer name. This is my taxpayer name. Kavai’ala Uluwehi Onau’una is my given, my identity name. So this name was given to me when my mother was pregnant. And my grandmother remembers smelling gardenias that would grow outside of our window. And so, that scent would sort of linger on her skin unforgettable. And so, this is the name that I carry.

Whether that has a good meaning or a bad meaning, it doesn’t say if the smell is nice or if the smell is not nice. I don’t know. But that’s the power of names in being able to grow into your name and your responsibility. So how do we get to know each other’s names? So in indigenous play parties, which we’ll not be doing here. We will be keeping our clothes on. There will be no playing of that sense, but the learnings that happen in play parties and being able to understand who’s in the room and how do we get to know each other’s name in a very consensual way.

We’re going to play a quick game. So this is called Janken Po. Many of you might know this as rock, paper, scissors. In Hawaii, we call it by its Japanese name, Janken Po. So the way it goes is you only have three things you can do, rock, paper, and scissors. Is anyone familiar with this game? Perfect. We call this Janken Po Rockstar. I’m going to ask if perhaps table three can help me demonstrate. So if you can come stand here with me, we’re just going to demonstrate for the crowd, and then we’re all going to do it. Yes.

So the way Janken Po Rockstar works, you’re going to pair off and find someone to do rock, paper, scissors. So I’ll go with JJ. And then, we’ll do this. So Janken Po, Janken Po, Janken Po. All right, so he wins. Rock defeats scissors. So now, I become JJ’s cheerleader. So what happens is I stand behind JJ and say, “JJ, JJ.” While he searches for a new opponent. “JJ, JJ, JJ, JJ, JJ, JJ. Get him. JJ.” Who’s the winner?

JJ:
Me.

Elena Farden:
Okay, so now you become part of our JJ cheerleading line. “JJ, JJ, JJ, JJ, JJ.” Who’s the winner? Brian?

Brian:
Yeah.

Elena Farden:
Now, we all become Brian’s cheerleader line. “Brian, Brian, Brian, Brian, Brian, Brian, Brian, Brian, Brian, Brian, Brian.”

Brian:
I got it.

Elena Farden:
So Brian is now the winner, so…

Brian:
My introvert’s like yelling at me right now.

Elena Farden:
Thank you for helping me with this. So what we’ll do for Janken Rockstar, you’ll start with your table first. Pair off to go Janken Rockstar. Then once you’ve done with your table, you’re going to need to expand through the room. Continue to find someone else to challenge until there are only two left. And again, if you are the non-winner, because we have no losers, if you are the non-winner, you become the cheerleader for whoever has acquired you. Any quick questions? I know that was a lot of…

Speaker 10:
1, 2, 3, hit?

Elena Farden:
1, 2, 3, hit. 1, 2, 3, reveal. Yep. And only rock, paper, scissors. No T-Rex, or Velociraptor, or dynamite. None of those will work. Any quick questions? Are we all good with Janken Po Rockstar? Until there’s two left. All right, start at your table.
Who was the winner? Steve?

Audience:
Steve.

Elena Farden:
Steve. Where’s Steve? Congratulations, Steve. So thank you everyone for playing Janken Rockstar. Now that you found another good way to find everyone’s name and also a way to cheer them on, and this is our winner, Steve.

Audience:
Whoo!

Speaker 12:
Steve, Steve, Steve, Steve.

Elena Farden:
Steve, in knowing your name and now that you’re a winner, would you be open to sharing the story about your name? How did you get your name, Steve?

Steve:
Gosh, I wish I knew better.

Elena Farden:
I’m sorry I put you on the spot.

Steve:
Yeah. No, I think my parents had a list of names that were actually relatives, and they were nixing each other’s different options. So they settled on Steve because it was not a relative, and they liked it. I was born in the time of when maybe Steve McQueen was popular and stuff like that, so there might’ve been some influence there. And then, my middle name is after one of my cranky great-grandfathers. My great-grandfather, Ed Hauser, who supposedly was just a cranky, disagreeable person unfortunately.

Elena Farden:
Truly opposite of you, huh?

Steve:
I think so.

Elena Farden:
Okay.

Steve:
You don’t need the last names. I mean, I got that. There was no choice in that.

Elena Farden:
It’s up to you if you’d like to share.

Steve:
Yeah, Bozak is a Slovak name that came from my great-grandfather who emigrated here about 150 years ago, and went from rags to riches, then got ruined by the Great Depression actually. Yeah. And it actually means either poor person or barefoot person in Slovakia, so yeah.

Elena Farden:
Thank you, Steve. Thank you for playing. Yep.

Audience:
Steve, Steve, Steve, Steve.

Elena Farden:
Steve, Steve, Steve, Steve.

Audience:
Steve, Steve, Steve.

Elena Farden:
Oh, but that is also the power of names and also the power of story. We would’ve never known that that was a story behind your name, how you got it. So with that, again, knowing your name is also knowing your intention and the things that you come with. For those of you that may not know the story of your name, I encourage you to ask your parents, your family, your grandparents, if they’re still with us. Ask them how you got your name. Where does my name come from?
If you’re so bold, ask them, “Do you remember when or how I was conceived? What’s the story behind that?” There might be a story of how your name came to be. What music was playing? I don’t know, so. So our names and our stories are important. And again, congratulations to Steve, but also thank you for sharing that story. In indigenous places, we consider stories a sacred place because you are revealing things about yourself that are open, that are vulnerable, that may not always be known. So thank you for sharing that.

All right. Our next thing with identifying our mauna, the things that sustain us, how we introduce ourselves, and now ways that we get to know each other’s name. And coming into consent as ceremony, we’re also wanting to do an offer before an ask. So I’ll model this. And the way we do this in places that I am familiar with is we always want to bring an offering. It could be food, it could be a blessing, it could be a song, it could be a moment of gratitude. It could also be an ask for forgiveness.

We want to offer that before we ask for anything, meaning we’re always filling before we’re taking something out. So in this exercise, I’m going to ask you to work in pairs. You’ll have partner A is to find an object. It could be anything on the table, and you can pretend what it might be. And you’re going to provide an offering to your partner, and it can be simple. I offer time. I want to offer you a moment of gratitude. I want to say I was inspired by your story, whatever it might be.
And your partner has to receive that offering fully, meaning I accept it. Thank you. I appreciate this. And then, you as partner A is going to ask them for something. And it could be a simple, “I would love to have a conversation with you after this. I’d love to connect with you on LinkedIn, so we can continue this conversation that we had here at the summit.” So to help model this, I would like to offer and ask for forgiveness, and that would be to Douglas and Jamie. And coming into this session, I had offered to host and facilitate one.

And during that time, I know that I was not in my best behavior and following up with communication with both Douglas and Jamie having to chase me constantly, making sure that I would turn in my materials if I had any questions, if I’m coming to the meeting, do I need anything else? Are there any materials? And it was a much, much delay on my part and impacted their planning. So with that, for Douglas and Jamie, I offer my deepest and sincere apologies for my behavior, and I know it wasn’t productive.

And going forward, I commit to having more timely communication in how I interact with you and all of Voltage Control because you are an important part of my community, so I offer that to you, and I ask that you humbly accept it. Yep. Great. Now that they fully accepted it, my ask of Douglas and Eric and Jamie is if perhaps the slides that were shared by the facilitators might be available somehow is my small ask. And if not, that’s also okay. Okay, perfect. So in pairs, either at your table or someplace else, remember we just had Janken Po Rockstar. You’ve met tons of people that you’ve cheered for. Find someone, pick who’s going to do the offering first, who’s going to receive, and then you’re going to switch.
So thank you for that. I’m wondering, I’m going to ask from the tables in the back, also table one, what it felt like to receive fully before you were asked something. Oh, yeah.

Speaker 14:
Yeah, like, oh, I’ve received it. Now, I have to give you what you’re asking for, so.

Elena Farden:
It can feel like a trap. I should’ve mentioned, you have free will to say, you could say no. I wasn’t explicit. Right. Yeah, good point. Good feedback. Our table’s in the back. Yes. Oh, in this table?

Speaker 15:
Sure.

Elena Farden:
Frank?

Frank:
I had no problem giving. I actually felt really good because for me, it’s disarming.

Elena Farden:
Sure.

Frank:
Yeah. Plus I was concerned. You know, vitamin C, the tangerine. I want to make sure she was healthy, so.

Elena Farden:
Yep.

Speaker 17:
It was so funny. I had no problem giving. I gave a wonderful little flower made of these little dots here. But I had a lot of trouble thinking about my ask, I was like, “Oh, what do I want to ask for? I don’t know if there’s anything I want to ask for.” And so, that was just an interesting observation for myself.

Elena Farden:
Feeling like a trap, being a giver, but also you just want to give. You don’t know if you want anything in exchange. That could be a thing too. Yeah, not knowing. Yes.

Speaker 18:
I guess the idea of reciprocity. It’s like if I actually need something, I’m going to give this to you. And then, therefore be able to ask you of something. I guess that’s another way you can look at it. That’s a little more cynical to me, but that’s kind of how I saw it.

Elena Farden:
No, reciprocity is a very big thing in the offering and the ask, and then also your intention. There was a hand here. Okay, I’m coming. Oh, you can…

Speaker 19:
So I gave Katie here a highlighter and I just grabbed the first thing. And then as soon as I handed it to her, it became very obvious to me that this is a magical device to mark what’s important in life and the important moments. And I’m normally not capable of finding things like that. And I think that’s a hundred percent a testament to your ability to set the frame and the spirit in this room, so thank you very much.

Elena Farden:
Thank you. Thank you. One last reflection or comment. And then, we’re going to move into our closing. Okay. So in our last 30 minutes together and on our last day, I’d like to offer a closing circle. Something that I also do in my practice within indigenous play spaces. And I did have a question from Melissa, what is an indigenous play space? So I’ll just address that really quickly to put some questions at ease. But an indigenous play space or play parties is where people from different backgrounds, either ethical, non-monogamy or consensual non-monogamy have abilities to gather together in order to have consensual play.

And that may be an open relationship, that may be a swinger type of situation, but these things need structure, they need guidance, they need consent, they need strict rules to be followed so that there is psychological and physical safety, that everyone is aware of what their expectations and rules are. And if those are not followed, what happens for the consequences because of the type of physical and mental damage that could happen. So that is what a play party is. And most of the facilitation that I do is somewhat in that space, but mostly in indigenous spaces. So I hope that helped answers your question.

With that, I’m going to quickly and nervously move to a closing circle. So I’m going to ask from this table on, if I can have you stand and come into a circle, maybe around these two tables. I know it might be difficult. But if I can ask this table 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, have you stand and come into a circle. You’re going to face inwards and face each other, and try to make a circle as best as you can.

Speaker 20:
Close on.

Elena Farden:
Close on. Yes.
All right. Now that you’re in this circle, what’s going to happen is I’m going to ask you to close your eyes. Does anyone have any injuries on your top right shoulder? Or does anyone not like to be physically touched on your top right shoulder? If so, you’re welcome to step out of the circle and just observe. There is no judgment. I just want to make sure you’re fully informed of what will happen to you.

So the touch will be… Is it okay if I touch your shoulder? It will look like this, and that’s it. If you’re not okay with that, and that’s completely fine as well. Feel free to step out of the circle and you can just observe. Okay? I’m going to ask you folks to stay within this circle and close your eyes. No peeking. All right, I’m going to ask this half of the room to surround the circle on the outside where I’m here in this way. All the way around, if you can make it.

I’m going to give the outer circle three prompts one at a time. And with those prompts, you’re going to touch the shoulder of the person that matches that prompt. You can touch as many shoulders as you want. Again, only the top right shoulder. This is non-sexual consensual touch. We are not touching anywhere else on the body. Again, you can touch as many participants in the inside circle as you want pending the prompt.

So for example, a prompt might be, touch the person on the shoulder of who you are happy that you met today at this two-day summit. Okay? All right, we’re going to go counterclockwise. When you come back to the person you are standing in front of after you’ve made your round, you’ll just pause there. Okay? Does that make sense? Clockwise. Is this clockwise? Am I making it weird?

Speaker 21:
Nope.

Elena Farden:
Okay. Okay. Okay. I will lean into the movement of the group. All right. So we’ll start inner circle, keep your eyes closed. Outer circle, please touch the top right shoulder of someone that you met today that helped change your perspective about your facilitation practice.

I see we’ve made our way around. Your next prompt for the outer circle is to touch the top right shoulder of someone you were so excited to cheer for, whether it’s Janken Po Rockstar, whether it’s hearing them share their story, whether it’s anything throughout these two days together where you saw them stand up, be vulnerable, be open to feedback and share with the whole group.

And now, for our last prompt, touch the top right shoulder of the person who you didn’t have a chance to meet, but had their presence not been here in the past two days, the experience would have not been the same. Inner circle, continue to keep your eyes closed. Outer circle, your gratitude has been seen, felt, and acknowledged. Take one step over to your left. And inner circle with your eyes still closed, put your left hand on the right shoulder of the person next to you and just thank them for being in the space with you.

You can open your eyes, sorry. That might be helpful. Yeah, so that there is no inappropriate placement of hands. Perfect. My inner circle, now with your eyes open, I’m going to ask you to step out. And our outer circle, you’re going to step in and find your place to close your eyes. Again, same for the inner circle. If there’s anyone uncomfortable or does not want to participate, there’s no judgment. You can feel free to step out at any time and just be an observer and a witnesser.
For our outer circle. You’re going to go clockwise, which I guess is this way. Yeah, that’s what I was told. Sorry, I live on an island. Any questions for the outer circle before we start? I know you had eyes closed in the beginning. All right. Inner circle, please close your eyes, settle in. For our outer circle, please touch the shoulder, top right shoulder of the person you are glad you met, that they came to this facilitation summit, that you made a connection with them, that they helped change something about your perspective in the work that you do.

All right, thanks for coming full circle. Our next prompt. Touch the top right shoulder of someone that you may not have had the opportunity to meet, but you’ve witnessed them in their quiet moments with them talking with others, with them eating or doing their work. You saw their presence here, and you just want to acknowledge that you see them. So touch the top right shoulder of someone you didn’t have an opportunity to meet, but you are grateful for their presence here.
And our last round, touch the top right shoulder of someone who did something, said something, wore something, pushed back at something, agreed with something, made you say, “Heck, yeah, this might be my people, my person. I’m so overjoyed that you attended.” Outer circle, your gratitude has been seen, felt, and acknowledged. Thank you so much. Inner circle, you can open your eyes. Please put your left hand on the right top shoulder of the person next to you, and just thank them for their presence here. Yep. All right. Everyone, you can have a seat if you wish. Thanks.

We have just a few minutes to wrap up. I’m going to ask two folks to just share. So I’ll ask you just quick reflections on the gratitude circle. Anything that stood out or how you might incorporate it in your practice, or just open thoughts and feedback would be great.

Speaker 22:
Thank you. So it reminded me how much… Well, I mean. Yeah, thanks. I was thinking. It reminded me how much physical touch is important. And I think especially following the pandemic and even before that, I think we were drifting further and further away from physical touch. And I was thinking, “Okay, how might I safely bring this into the groups that I work with?” I would like to understand this a lot more. And I’d love anything else that you might be able to offer if we were to bring this to our groups, especially the ones that don’t have the same levels of trust that I hope that we’ve built here. So thank you for that.

Speaker 23:
And strangely, I’m nonverbal. I don’t have words. Moved is the word that I have. Moved. Thank you.

Elena Farden:
Thank you both for sharing. So that closes us out. Here, I have our closing circle, our lei hipu’u. Our lei or wreath that we wear. Hipu’u is a type of tie. You can see these leaves are tied by their stem. The leaves that are here are from candlenut or kukui. They symbolize light or enlightenment. And so, why they’re tied in this knotted fashion is symbolic of fastening the knowledge that you’ve gained over time. So oftentimes, this lei style is given to graduates when they get their degree, when they move on to a new job that the knowledge and intellect and everything that they’ve imbued is fastened tightly. They don’t lose it, and they carry it with them forward.

So I offer this lei hipu’u with you folks, and thank you for being open in this gratitude circle. I have a 1, 2, 3 in case this is something that’s helpful for you. Just a quick reflection. One thing that you’d like to carry forward in your practice. Two things shared today that you are still holding questions about. They still feel nebulous maybe. And three things you want to dig into more deeper or you want to understand more. And this will just be for your own self-reflection. So thank you so much. And I have five minutes to spare. I feel like I should get a little star or something. Thank you for everyone. I close this out and I send it back to you folks.

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The Internet Was My First Gathering Place

I found the internet in the ‘90s, before most of my friends had even heard of it. Back then, mIRC was my portal out of a small town in New Brunswick, Canada, and into late-night chats with people across the United States, Europe, Australia, and South America.

The internet felt particularly experimental and generous at that time. A university professor once helped me with a high school physics problem simply because I asked. A stranger even sent me a free plane ticket to meet someone I’d connected with online. That person is now my partner of 27 years.

It wasn’t seamless or fast, but these early experiences with online connections reshaped how I understood geography and relationships. It sparked a quiet knowing that technology could shrink distance and make space for something deeply human.

Experimenting My Way into Strategy

Once I entered the workforce, no one really knew what to do with the internet, so I became the unofficial digital explorer. “Here’s the corporate website. Figure it out,” someone would say. And I did. That era gave me room to try, mess up, and try again. I moved between agency, government, and nonprofit projects before landing in travel.

That’s where the threads started to weave tighter. I managed digital programs, built intranets, maintained web forums, and designed marketing campaigns and virtual trainings long before those were common terms. I even created the first virtual social media marketing course for travel pros. But the tech was never the point. What lit me up was the way it nudged people closer. Across silos. Across time zones. Across the awkward starts.

Whether I helped older professionals learn digital skills or crafted pathways for quiet contributors to speak up, I was quietly engineering moments of momentum and ease. I just didn’t have a label for it yet.

Finding Language for the Work

My background was in communications and PR. Once tech entered the mix, I started looking through a different lens. What kind of experience am I shaping here? How does this interaction feel in someone’s body? What is this allowing that wasn’t possible before?

When I started my own business in 2011, clients would say, “I’ve made connections I never expected, and our approach feels so much more powerful than what others are telling me to do.” The pattern repeated so often, it became hard to ignore.

Most people think of facilitation as something formal or tied to events, like a brainstorm session, a retreat, or a post-it-filled workshop. But I realized I had already been facilitating in smaller, more integrated ways: noticing group dynamics, helping people move from uncertainty to alignment, designing conversations that made it easier to show up and contribute. Facilitation, to me, became less about a single role and more about how I create momentum and meaning in a space, especially inside organizations and communities navigating complexity.

But I didn’t call it facilitation. It simply felt like creating good conditions: shaping interactions, softening the hard edges of tech so people could show up more fully, and gently guiding participation to make people feel seen. It wasn’t until I found Voltage Control and its certification program that I realized this thing I’d been doing for years had a name. And even better, it had tools, people, and the language I’d been craving without realizing it.

At the time, I was feeling untethered. My partner had been laid off. I was recovering from a long illness. I wasn’t working much. But this opportunity landed in my periphery, and my gut kept nudging me to it. I applied, received a scholarship, and followed the quiet pull.

Recognizing My Place in the Room

The certification wasn’t just a course. It was a mirror. I walked in feeling like an outsider, scanning the Zoom grid and wondering if I belonged. Everyone seemed so confident, so sharp. I was nervous, but I wanted to learn. So I stayed.

One of the most meaningful parts was meeting Laura Pasternak from MarketPoint, my partner in month one. We clicked immediately and still speak regularly. She saw what I was working toward before I could name it and gently reflected it. She helped me recognize things I hadn’t fully seen in myself and reminded me I didn’t have to figure it all out alone.

And then came the portfolio. I wasn’t sure I had enough to show. But once I started going through my past work, I saw how much I’d done and who it had reached. I looked back at the communities I’d supported: social workers advocating for better mental health access, seniors using art for wellbeing, women building confidence around money, women navigating grief, and entrepreneurs funding innovation for good. I realized this work had been building for years. The portfolio didn’t just document that. It helped me finally see it.

Turning Intuition Into Practice

What the program gave me, more than anything, was vocabulary and structure. I finally understood the difference between divergent and convergent thinking. I saw that I was strong in the divergent phase, especially when it came to exploring and generating ideas. But convergence was where I needed tools.

Once I had that language, I started to see what was and wasn’t working in my client engagements. I started experimenting. I tried new exercises, frameworks, and ways of structuring sessions. It felt like picking up a new set of paintbrushes. The first few tries were rough, but I could feel things starting to take shape.

Then the right work started to land. Within a few weeks, I signed several new clients, including two large member-based organizations. This was exactly the kind of work I’d been hoping for. I made half my annual income in just two weeks. More importantly, I got to apply everything I’d just learned in real time, with people who were ready to dig in.

Halfway through a recent session, a participant paused and said, “It’s been such a valuable experience to be shepherded through this conversation. It helped me see things differently and recognize where we can make different choices to create a more meaningful impact.” I learned later she’d been one of the most hesitant to attend.

That moment made it clear I wasn’t just leading sessions. I was helping people feel safe enough to show up fully. It was a reminder that small shifts in how we gather can open the door to real change.

Getting Clear on Where I Belong

Working on my portfolio and with Laura helped me see what was already in front of me. Member-based organizations had been part of my client mix for a while, but I hadn’t named them as a focus. They gave me the strongest feedback, the clearest outcomes, and the kind of challenges I wanted to solve.

That realization helped me shift my focus. I still work with small teams, but more of my energy now goes toward facilitation-rich engagements with member organizations.

That might look like co-designing a member experience roadmap, facilitating discovery workshops to understand what people want, or supporting internal teams as they define what engagement and belonging should look like moving forward. In many cases, I’m helping member-based organizations move from assumptions to insights, and from insight to action. It’s not just about creating one good gathering or platform. It’s about designing a whole system that encourages trust, relevance, and participation.

And I’ve started naming the thing I do correctly. I’m a facilitator. It’s not just how I work. It’s how I think.

How I Talk About My Work Has Changed

Lately, I’ve been getting more specific about how I talk about my work. I’m building on what I’ve always done, now with language and tools that help me do it more effectively. After each session, I pause to reflect on what worked and what could shift for next time.

I’m learning how to design sessions that feel grounded and collaborative, not performative. The clients I’m working with now are often mission-driven and values-aligned, and the conversations we’re having feel more relevant and focused. Best of all, I get to help them reconnect with their communities in new, genuine, and valuable ways.

I help these organizations step back and see the full picture, from the member experience to the internal processes that support it. Sometimes that means mapping the journey a member takes, clarifying what belonging looks like, or facilitating cross-functional sessions to align the team around shared priorities. Other times, it’s about identifying simple, strategic shifts that make the community feel more alive and intentional. At the core of it all, I help them design a human-first experience that feels more meaningful, but also drives stronger engagement and sustainable membership growth.

Helping Teams Design More Human Experiences

Much of my work centers around three key areas. I support membership experience and engagement by helping teams develop new ways to activate participation and increase member satisfaction. I focus on membership value by shaping offers that feel relevant and worth showing up for. And I design and lead listening efforts like focus groups, interviews, and co-creation sessions to uncover member needs, test ideas, and guide smarter decisions.

This work isn’t just about improving programs or running online forums. It’s about helping organizations reconnect with the people they serve, realign around what matters, and create experiences that feel thoughtful, relevant, and genuinely worth being part of. When teams take the time to listen, reflect, and realign, engagement feels more natural, decisions come with more confidence, and members begin to recognize themselves in the experience. 

This clarity didn’t come from starting over. It came from finally seeing the shape of the work I’d been doing all along.

An Invitation to See Your Work Differently

If you’re considering the facilitation certification, let yourself follow the nudge. It might stretch parts of you that you didn’t expect. But stretch is where evolution lives. The program isn’t just a toolkit. It’s a mirror and a reset. A reintroduction to work that may already feel familiar.

And if you’re wondering whether you’re already a facilitator, you probably are. You don’t need to start from scratch. You just need to recognize what’s already there and keep building from it.

Sophie Bujold is a facilitator and community strategist who helps membership-based organizations design more human, connected experiences. She works with teams to uncover what their members truly need, rethink how participation happens, and design programs that spark connection and momentum. You can learn more at cliqueworthy.com.

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At the 2025 Facilitation Lab Summit, Kathy Ditmore led an impactful session on “Mapping the Change Journey”, offering valuable tools and frameworks for creating successful change processes within teams and organizations. This session focused on using a canvas as a “compass” to guide projects toward success and aligned transformation, emphasizing how to adapt and lead through change effectively.

Exploring the Canvas: Your Compass for Success

Kathy kicked off the session with an engaging icebreaker: participants placed their birthdays or favorite day on a sticky note, fostering connection and lightening the mood. This simple exercise set the tone for a session that combined reflection with actionable tools for leading change.

The heart of the session was Kathy’s introduction of the canvas, a tool she described as a guiding framework for navigating the complexities of change. The canvas wasn’t about adopting a one-size-fits-all solution—it was about offering a flexible, living document that helped teams clarify their vision, align on purpose, and identify what steps to take next.

The Journey of Change: Setting the Stage for Success

Kathy shared a key lesson from her career: change succeeds when people connect to purpose and have ownership of the direction they’re going. Her early experience as a programmer highlighted how even the most well-intentioned training efforts fall short without a clear understanding of why the work matters.

The session continued with a deep dive into the backpack essentials for change: staying open, being curious, and engaging fully. Kathy encouraged participants to leave behind preconceived methods or frameworks and focus on adapting their approach to the specific needs of the team and project at hand.

Exercise: The Tale of Two Changes

To help participants internalize the concepts, Kathy led them through an exercise titled “The Tale of Two Changes”. Attendees were asked to reflect on a successful change and a struggling one. They identified key factors that fueled the success of the former and what was missing in the latter. The group shared insights, revealing common themes: clear roles, communication, support, and leadership alignment all stood out as crucial for successful transformations.

The Canvas: Your Roadmap for Change

As the session unfolded, Kathy introduced the canvas, which was structured into three main areas:

1. Mindset: Aligning everyone around a shared vision and understanding of the “why.”
2. Execution: Defining the guiding principles, roles, resources, and risks that shape the change process.
3. Connection: Understanding stakeholders and engagement strategies to ensure that everyone is on board and moving in the same direction.

Kathy emphasized that this tool should be viewed as a living document, one that evolves as the team progresses and learns together. She also provided an example of how the canvas could be used in project rescue, helping teams reorient struggling initiatives through a purposeful re-evaluation of their vision.

Creating Clarity: Vision and Purpose

A key moment of the session focused on visioning: crafting a shared purpose and aligning everyone around the “why.” Kathy facilitated a story-building exercise to help participants break down complex ideas into manageable, clear themes. By engaging with a simple exercise that explored direction and clarity, attendees were encouraged to rethink their approach to projects—emphasizing the importance of alignment from the very start.

Practical Insights for the Road Ahead

Kathy concluded with reflections on the importance of dialogue in change processes. The canvas is a tool to guide these conversations, helping teams stay on track and adjust as needed. She shared examples of using the tool to identify potential detours, offering a framework for troubleshooting when change processes start to veer off course.

The session left participants with a renewed focus on how to approach change with clarity, empathy, and a structured plan—ensuring that transformation isn’t just about the end result, but also about the journey of alignment and ownership along the way.

The session left participants with a renewed focus on how to approach change with clarity, empathy, and a structured plan—ensuring that transformation isn’t just about the end result, but also about the journey of alignment and ownership along the way.

Watch the full video below:

Transcript of Kathy’s Session:

Kathy Ditmore:
Hello? Can you hear me? Can you hear me? Yeah, okay, great. Thanks. Thank you for having me today. So, as Eric mentioned, the topic today is Mapping the Change Journey and I’ve chosen a tool, I was thinking about this, what did I want to bring in so we’re going to be looking at a canvas as a compass for your project’s success. So, while you all are settling in and as we’re getting in, if you take a sticky and go ahead and put your month and day of your birthday. And if you’re not comfortable putting that out there to everybody, just pick your favorite day and put that on the table in front of you so the other folks at the table can see the month and day, don’t need the year. So, as you’re doing that.

So, a little bit about me and why this topic is important to me. Early in my career as a young programmer, I had the opportunity to engage with a client at a different level and it was great. Kathy, you’re connecting, we’d love you to train our client’s teams how to use the system. Wow, that’s great, I’m being recognized. So, I go in and I train. Blank stares, everybody’s looking at me. It’s very uncomfortable. So, while I found I could teach them how to click buttons, how to navigate the screens, there was something missing for everyone in that room and that was their why and how the work they were doing was going to transform how they did business, was going to transform the results that they were bringing in and the outcomes that they were seeking.

So, that set in motion what is at my core. We did a little work on purpose statements yesterday so I’m going to read mine out. I’m a facilitative project delivery leader creating space for teams to align around a shared purpose and co-create their path forward. And what does that mean? I thought about this. Through my roles over my career, I’ve always been in the technical industry as a programmer, a business analyst, project manager, a change practitioner, change leader both in commercial and nonprofit. I’ve seen over and over again that change succeeds when people connect to purpose and have ownership in the direction they’re going and agency in how they adapt, they have a say. And even if their say isn’t heard … Even if their say doesn’t change the direction, it’s been heard, they can weigh in, they can frame the messaging.

As we go through today, I may use some terms. These are not industry standard terms, these are just definitions that I’m throwing out there for you. So, some reference points as we go on this journey. The first one is a project, it’s a temporary endeavor. We’re creating something new or different or making something different, it might be the next step. A change and that’s the human journey from what is to what will be, also known as transition. Done well, it’s nice. Not done well, looks a little like Swiss cheese. In fact, I think Prosci likes to use that term. As much as I love Swiss cheese, it’s probably not a great way to do change. Change leadership, it’s creating that space and the conditions for teams to navigate the change together. And project rescue, I do reference this at some point. So, when I talk about a project rescue, I’m talking about reorienting your struggling initiatives through purpose.

Any things folks would want to add? Questions? All right. So, a little about our journey today, a bit of a guide for you. First thing we’re going to do is we’re going to check our backpack essentials. We’re going to check what we don’t want to carry with us as we go on this journey and we’re going to check those things that we want to keep in mind as we go through. We’re going to explore patterns in change, we’re going to explore change dynamics, we’re going to discover our compass, today we’ll use the canvas. We’re going to practice orientation, orienting with the compass and then we’ll talk about some insights for the road ahead. So, hopefully, you all are ready to go on this journey.

So, the backpack essentials. The first one, stay open and stay curious. I had some particular notes on this one and it’s really about … This may be familiar territory for a lot of you but try to approach it with fresh eyes. Engage fully beyond your methods. So, this isn’t about doing the right way so leave your methods, we’re talking about things you don’t want to carry on your backpack. This isn’t about Prosci, not about Cotter, not about Lewis models of chains, leave all that aside. This is about the process we’re going to be going through as far as how we use this tool and it should apply regardless of a method. Ask you to lean in the detours because it’s in those spaces that your learning happens and then make it real. As we’re going through, I’m coming from one perspective. Each of you have different backgrounds so think about what you’re going to be able to pull from today to bring into your practice with your customers and how you show up and how you bring your teams along on their journey.

Is there anything folks would like to add to the agreements today? Great. So, our first exercise is going to be exploring the tale of two changes. Each of you, I’m sure, has been through a change that went really well but you’ve also been through a change that just went not quite so well, it struggled. This poor guy, he’s trying to limp over the finish line, it’s quite sad and there’s cost to that. I think earlier it was mentioned, the adoption, that can be painful. So, I’d like each of you to think about, and I’m going to put it on the next slide too, the instructions, what are some key factors that gave momentum to a change done well. Think about that change, think about how you felt, how the team engaged, what was right about that particular endeavor and the same for your struggling change. What was missing from the change that struggled?

So, we’re going to do this. Step one, everybody got their birthday or their favorite day on the table, that’s actually step four. But go ahead and take a piece of paper, your sticky notes, fold it in half or use the individual sticky notes. Individually, take a couple minutes and think about both of those, a change that went well and a change that didn’t go quite so well and pull out those key factors of what contributed or what was missing. Then you’re going to pair share at your table and, if you have an odd number at your table, you’re welcome to triple up or look at somebody from another table and create your sticky notes and then you’re going to table share. You can use the backside of the giant canvas and put out your sticky notes, theme them out and I’d like, as a table, for you to pick your top three for both. And your spokesperson, lucky winner today, if you don’t have a volunteer, if you have a volunteer, that’s great. But one way to find your volunteer is whoever has a day that’s closest to today. And if your birthday’s today, happy birthday. So, with that, we’ll let you go for a few minutes.

Okay, you should start moving to your table shares. You may not have all completed getting to your top three so, if you have a few more to read out, that’s fine. But that looks like there was a lot of great discussion happening so I’m really curious to go around and hear from folks in the room. Who would like to share for … We’ll start with the change that went well. What were some of the key factors that gave momentum? And mics will go around.

Speaker 2:
Okay. So, there was a couple of key things that came out from our table on what were success factors. One of those being that the organization supported a culture of change and a culture of experimentation so that people were more accepting of change. We just know we’re changing and we have a purpose for it and we’re evolving and to expect it. So, that was one of them. Another program that was used for some change was some early adopters that accepted the change, were able to proactively advocate for the benefits of those change and speak to it in a positive format. And then the last one is buy-in from the top down, that’s always a big one. Making sure that leadership understands, accepts and clearly communicates the change and the need and the why and that they can speak to it.

Kathy Ditmore:
Oh, thank you. Excellent. Are there things folks would want to add to that? Any other table want to add to that?

Speaker 3:
Hi. It is my birthday today so … I think there’s another birthday too.

Kathy Ditmore:
Whoo, happy birthday.

Speaker 3:
I think there was another birthday as well. Was there?

Speaker 3:
Yes.

Kathy Ditmore:
Who was it?

Speaker 3:
Okay, close.

Speaker 3:
Cool. So, for positives, we said that effective communication was essential and using one standardized system, people know what to expect, how you’re going to be communicated to in a certain timeframe. One that I brought up that was a bit, I think, unique was we call it the source booth at a company, our company and it’s that there’s one place to find all the information you’ll need. It’s equal opportunity so everyone has access to it, everyone has permission. If you’re out of office, you come back, you know where all the details are, it’s right there in the source of truth. And then third, having lead time. So, if you’re going to make a change, we made a big payment provider change at our company recently, we had a few months lead time and that wasn’t really enough. So, the more time, the better to make that change possible.

Kathy Ditmore:
Wonderful. Thank you for sharing and I appreciate that source of truth, that central place that speaks a little bit to the agency that people can find their information as well. Anybody else want to add to that?

Stacy:
I’ll go. Hi, I’m Stacy, my birthday’s on Friday.

Kathy Ditmore:
Happy birthday.

Stacy:
One that came up again and again for us was really clear roles and responsibilities. So, everybody knowing what their job is and what their purpose is, that’s the biggest one. And then just affirmation that you’re valued and knowing that you’re valued and trusted, that was another big one for went well.

Kathy Ditmore:
Great, thank you. We have one more in the back and then we’ll move to change that struggled.

Jackie:
Okay. I’m Jackie, my birthday is in about three weeks so I just put myself out there.

Kathy Ditmore:
Happy birthday.

Jackie:
So, I’ll just try to add the ones that we haven’t already had but we talked about not just clarity of vision but having a shared vision and purpose certainly contributes to a successful outcome. Believing in yourself to make the change, doing the internal work as the facilitator and to have the right people in the right roles. In other words, a match of talents and skills with what a project needs and what people want to give to the project to have a successful outcome.

Kathy Ditmore:
Excellent, thank you very much. So, I’m sure there’s a lot more folks can add on but a lot of things stood out here. I am curious, before we compare the two, who would like to share some of the findings for what was missing in a change that didn’t go quite so well?

Harry:
My name’s Harry, birthday is in 10 days.

Kathy Ditmore:
Happy birthday.

Harry:
One was actually understanding the difference between workload and the resources you had. So, even if you have the great plan, have you actually understood the resources available to make the change? Another one was either missing wise or even bad ones that don’t resonate with the group. And the last one was also the forced feelings you get, isn’t this exciting. If it’s not exciting, you don’t want to nod your head and agree but you may not have the space to disagree so, yeah.

Kathy Ditmore:
Thank you, appreciate that. Anybody else?

Speaker 8:
Okay, I [inaudible 00:13:46]. I was going to say empathy.

Kathy Ditmore:
Yeah.

Speaker 8:
But also, one thing that came up at this table is having leadership say that they’re open to feedback but appearing not to take it seriously. That seems to be a rough one.

Kathy Ditmore:
Appreciate that. I heard a lot of hmmm on that and I’m seeing a theme to the sessions we had earlier too. So, anybody else? One more. Please, go ahead. Oh, we’ve got one. We’ve got two more. Thanks.

Speaker 9:
Oh, sorry.

Speaker 10:
Sorry, I did not mean to cut in. We didn’t discuss it at our table but, when you were talking about leadership, it reminded me of how many changes I’ve seen fail because senior leadership is not aligned. So, it’s not enough to just have that change be communicated from the top down but the top needs to be on the same page first.

Kathy Ditmore:
Thank you for that.

Speaker 11:
At this table we did a little bit of a grouping and we didn’t quite get into all of the not well but I do see some repetition of progress report. So, understanding how that change is being received and how is it going so you can adapt and you might get all the way down the line and realize this didn’t actually go well but we didn’t have that visibility into what’s going on.

Kathy Ditmore:
Yeah, I appreciate that. I’m curious, as you’ve heard things today such as around support, things that contributed to things that went well, support experimentation, early adopters, buy-in from the top down, knowing the whole system, how to communicate, knowing where that source of truth is, clear roles and responsibilities. And then I’m going to jump, I know there were a lot more, I’m going to jump over to things that contributed to change that didn’t go quite so well. Understanding the progress, feeds a little bit into maybe the experimentation, senior leadership alignment, being open to feedback, having empathy, those forced feelings and workload and resources. Are folks seeing any themes or connections come out across those? What about how people are coming together? I see a hand over there.

Speaker 12:
Whether you’re focused on the change or on the people experiencing the change? It’s the customer focused as opposed to the-

Kathy Ditmore:
Both.

Speaker 12:
… us focused.

Kathy Ditmore:
Well, we’ve been through … This has been great discussion and it sounds like everybody’s had experience with both sides of change and I’m struck with something interesting here. So, when changes work, it sounds like people seem to be moving the same direction whether it’s they know their roles, their senior leaders are aligned, they know where to find information, they know what the experience should be, there’s a feedback loop, there’s empathy. So, there’s a clear path of how you’re going to be moving forward together. So, I’m going to move on to another exercise, this is … Take this with us as we bridge over to … We’re going to go over to another interesting idea here. So, I want to dig into the idea of direction and clarity and I’m going to jump over to another exercise. We got the time.

We’re going to do this one relatively quickly. What’s going to happen is I’m going to put three images on the screen. You can use those images however you want for three minutes as a table to build a story, three sentences. If you want to go to four, it’s okay, you want to keep it short. Story needs to begin with once upon a time. You can use those images however you want. You can use them literally, you can ascribe meaning to them, you can think about what’s happening outside the frame, what happened before, what happened after. You can think about the individuals that might be in these images, what they’re talking about, what they’re experiencing, what they’re feeling. You can use those images however you want to build a story that’s three sentences. Are you all ready? And pick one person at your table to be a scribe. If you do not have a volunteer, pick the person who has a birthday closest to July 4th.

Image one, image two, image three and you have three minutes. So, I know it was a lot to squeeze in in three minutes, that three minutes goes fast. But don’t worry, you have an opportunity. I’m now going to give you a theme. The moment we chose to leap. Still three sentences about, still once upon a time, you can still use these images however you want in any order and I’d like you to take a look at your story, see if there’s something you want to shift in your story or adjust. And you have two minutes for this. I know that was a quick exercise but I am curious, in the room, is there anybody here that actually adjusted their story? I’d love to hear from at least one of your tables, talk to me about that.

Speaker 13:
The first story is about once upon a time my grandfather and granddaughter created a magic garden. They lived on top of a hill, had a steep Securitas road to get there until one day Gargamel showed up in his hot air balloon and then they made the garden disappear by going invisible. How we changed this was the grandfather and granddaughter lived a happy vegetarian life, plant-based vegetarian life until one day Gargamel showed up with his pet pig, crashed the balloon, killed the pig, they barbecued it and everyone lived happily forever.

Kathy Ditmore:
That’s fantastic. So, how did you get there as a table?

Speaker 14:
So, part of it was that we asked people who hadn’t contributed for the first time to contribute and then we got super silly. Not silly, we were very serious.

Kathy Ditmore:
Okay. Is there anybody … You had a shift to your story there, it was a bit of a rewrite. Did anybody do a complete rewrite?

Crystal:
Well, so … Hi, I’m Crystal.

Kathy Ditmore:
Hi, Crystal.

Crystal:
We in our group, we wanted to try out what doing something bigger could look like and then, once we got the theme, we rewrote quite a bit. So, ours reads, once upon a time, humanity was born. We needed to be equipped with tools to leap. So, then we added leap obviously. To see problems from above, support each other, to be part of each other’s journey. So, you can see problems from above, hot air balloon, helping each other and cultivating and then that journey.

Kathy Ditmore:
Great, thank you. So, for those of you who shifted, and thank you for the table shares, fantastic stories. For those of you who felt the shift, what made shift? Was it the theme that made you shift?

Speaker 16:
More direction.

Kathy Ditmore:
Anybody else? Agree? Anything else that may have contributed?

Kathy Ditmore:
I’m sorry?

Speaker 18:
That we had a second set of time.

Kathy Ditmore:
You had a second set of time, that’ll help too. You now know what it’s about as well, right? So, I appreciated the more direction and so, going on the theme of what we’re hearing about people being aligned, having purpose, I’d like to introduce a tool you may want to use. On your tables, there’s small versions, it’s a canvas. Many of you are already familiar with canvases. The business model canvas. If any of you do lean change, you’re familiar with the lean change canvas that came out in the early 2000s. There’s lots of canvases you can use. My first experience with a canvas was early in my project management days, I had a sponsor who didn’t want to read a charter. Put a document in front of him, his eyes glazed over. Project on a page, it was our canvas. So, there’s a lot of great uses for a canvas and you can tailor them however you’d like.
Today’s canvas is set up on three sections. The middle is your mindset and that’s aligning everybody. It’s aligning on your vision, feeding on what was offered earlier around that compelling future state, what are you aiming to achieve. Helping people understand the significance, the why this has to happen, what happens if we don’t do it now. And then describing the benefits to the organization, to the team, to your customers, to them as individuals. On the left, I call this execution. This is the guiding principles, this is what’s going to guide your decision making. It could be your even overs, it could be your polarities you have to work through, that was a topic that came up with the group yesterday. But how are you going to make those decisions in the project? How are your teams going to be allowed to make decisions?

Your resources and roles, we heard about roles and responsibilities earlier. Who do you need on this project? What are their roles going to be and where are your gaps is most important as well and how are you going to support those people? Your change risks and mitigations. So, this is looking ahead and saying where are those detours going to happen on this project, what do I need to worry about, what does my team need to worry about and you’d want to be tracking those even at a high level. The canvas isn’t meant to be in great detail, you may have a lot of supporting materials underneath of this but it’s meant to pull out the top themes, the top highlights.

On the right, I call this connection. It has your stakeholders and impacts, these are your groups. This is very high level. How are they going to be impacted? Their jobs are going to be impacted, their compensation approach is going to be impacted, who they report to, processes, maybe tools they use, technology, usually track that separately. So, it gives you an idea of what you need to worry about and how you may need to make them aware of things or engage them which is the next group, engagement. Each of these groups like to be communicated to in a particular way. Not everybody is going to read an email. In fact, I’m someone, if you send me an email, it’s the last thing I’m going to read if I have time at the end of the day. If it’s urgent, you need to message me. So, how do people want to be engaged with? How do they want to communicate back to you? How are you going to capture their input? What are the channels? Maybe it varies by team. What can you leverage within the organization?

In the bottom right, there’s progress and success measures. Somebody mentioned experimentation earlier, those quick wins. I worked on a project recently and we found that, before we implemented the system, we could actually roll out pieces of the process that needed to change beforehand. So, those were experiments we were able to push out in advance, they were quick wins for the organization. So, where are those quick wins either within your teams or within the larger project? That’s a quick overview of this version of a canvas. Any questions?

Speaker 19:
It took me a minute to figure out my question. When you’re in the beginning of a project, do you fill this out all at once? Is there some living part of this over time? What’s the lifetime of this and this information?

Kathy Ditmore:
Yeah. So, this is meant to be a living breathing document and the beauty of a canvas is you create it for your engagement. This is one. Underneath of this which I didn’t share today, teams have a canvas. They have the vision at the top but then they have the impact specific to their team and what they need to do to support the change or what they need from the organization to support the change. So, this is all visible and all bubbled up. I have a slide later we’ll talk through where you could use it but, yes, initiation, you’d start filling it out. You could fill it out on your own after interviewing or you can gather your teams like we’re going to do in our next exercise and capture the collective intelligence and have a starting point.
So, let’s read the instructions first. You have a big canvas on your table so feel free to open that up and use it. Today, I was thinking you’d want to focus on, where I like to start, vision purpose, significance, the why now and the benefits. You might find as you’re working through this that you come up with ideas that belong in other blocks and that’s okay, put those stickies in those other blocks, you’ll come back to them later. I gave you a prompt if you’re doing a vision, you come up with your own but I’m sharing one if that helps you. Your approach today is, first, individually and I’m going to give you scenarios. Is individually, quickly capture your thoughts on sticky notes once you read the scenario. One idea per sticky around the vision.

So, you’re going to read the questions here. What’s your why? What’s your cause? What’s your purpose? What pains exist in your significance? What happens if you don’t do it now? Why is it important now? And your benefits. What are your anticipated improvements to your employees, the organization or external parties? Then, as a table, you’ll look at the stickies, please start just placing them in the middle sections. Talk as a table and start grouping them coming up with themes and go ahead and create your vision. Try to draft one and we’re going to have a table readout. If you don’t have a volunteer spokesperson, we’re going to pick the person whose birthday is closest to Halloween. All right, we’ve got at least one lucky winner in the room.

So, for this exercise, I’m going to cut us short a little bit because I do want time for us to have dialogue so I apologize for that. I’m going to give you first three minutes to start doing your stickies individually then you can go into working as a table and I will give you 10 minutes for that. So, a total of 13 minutes to work through this and then listen for the chime. Any questions before you start? Oh, yes, hold … The most important thing, I was so excited. You also have on your table, I apologize, a scenario.

Audience:
Aaah.

Kathy Ditmore:
Aaah, the magic thing. Got so excited, sorry. So, you have three scenarios, I’m going to put those up and then I’ll come back. Your first adventure is your group has been given a $10,000 budget and you’re going to go on an unforgettable trip. You have different ideas about your vacation and you need to ensure that trip aligns with your group’s priorities while staying in budget. Your second scenario and the third is … The second scenario is around onboarding. Everybody’s lived that, experienced that. You have employees that are struggling in the first 90 days feeling lost, disconnected and unclear in expectations. So, your leadership wants to redesign onboarding for a smoother, more engaging experience while balancing efficiency and personalization.

If you pick the third scenario, Douglas is going to want to see this at the end. So, the third scenario, as facilitators, you understand the power of well-designed experiences, you are loving the conference this year and you want to help with next year. So, Voltage Control is welcoming your input as they begin planning next year’s event to maximize engagement, connection and actionable takeaways. Your team has been tasked with mapping key changes.
So, as a table, quickly pick your scenario. You have a couple minutes to start drafting your individual stickies, put them on this canvas and then start working together to theme those and build your vision.

Speaker 21:
Question.

Speaker 22:
Quick question.

Kathy Ditmore:
One question.

Speaker 22:
So, I’m hearing a lot of language that’s big picture, vision and then I’m hearing other language that’s pretty specific on how to. Is it intended to be intertwined? It’s a little-

Kathy Ditmore:
It’s intended to bubble up the themes. So, sometimes folks can only look at the detail and then you can bubble up your themes.

Speaker 22:
Okay.

Kathy Ditmore:
So, this canvas is intended to really be high level, maybe later supported by more detail.

Speaker 22:
Okay.

Kathy Ditmore:
Thank you. And you should start, working as a table, putting your stickies in the middle. So, I’m going to call for a pause in conversations and I know that’s a quick exercise. First, you would not go this quickly in your business changes, at least I hope not. How does this feel for folks using something like a canvas to work through this? Yes?

Speaker 23:
Thanks. I think I saw a difference between high level thinking and low level thinking and there was maybe even some discordance, discord over that, yeah.

Kathy Ditmore:
Yeah. Thank you for sharing that and we’ll come back to that. That does happen at times depending on the groups. We have a few more.

Speaker 12:
It was really useful to have buckets to put our ideas into but it was too much all at once. It would’ve been nice to roll out just the center strip and then the next piece and have a build.

Kathy Ditmore:
Great, thank you.

Speaker 24:
Yeah. To plus one on that, it was hard because there were just so many, I’m like, “Oh, my gosh, where do I even start?” and then of course I went straight to solutions.

Speaker 25:
And they [inaudible 00:33:22].

Speaker 24:
Oh, of course.

Kathy Ditmore:
Great, thank you. Anybody else?

Stacy:
I have a microphone but I can’t figure out where all the voices are coming from. But I noticed there’s a really delicate balance between the beauty of the constraints and the prompts and then also allowing yourself to veer off the prompts when it happens and allowing that to happen organically.

Kathy Ditmore:
Absolutely, thank you. Anybody else? Over in front.

Speaker 3:
I sense some personal resistance to using such a formal system for … We used prompt one so it was a vacation. I was like, “Oh, I’m overthinking this, I don’t want to do that but I think it actually is I’m not overthinking it.” All these things are necessary but using them for a personal project feels like almost inappropriate but it actually is appropriate. You know? Does that make sense? I don’t know.

Kathy Ditmore:
I think it does. We have one more over there and then I want to see how … Did other folks align, run into the same things? I’ve heard discord, the ability to stay within the constraints but also permission, allowing yourself to veer off.

Speaker 26:
I think we did good and I love templates to help group our thinking. I think what is additionally helpful is examples. I think it would have been good if we would have seen an example, that would have just given us a little bit of a different-

Kathy Ditmore:
Different overview.

Speaker 26:
… perspective or helped us a little bit where we struggled at which bucket … And like you said, it doesn’t really matter which bucket it goes into but that would have helped us, I think, be not as confused.

Kathy Ditmore:
Okay. Indeed, thank you. One more.

Monica:
I just wanted to comment that I’m used to someone’s being like, “Fill out this canvas, Monica, for your product strategy,” and I’ve always really struggled with that and I think one of the reasons why is because I was doing it in a vacuum and there wasn’t a sequential process of prompts and thought to talk about that. I think that that’s the expectation that these conversations are happening and so it should be easy for me to go and synthesize it. So, I appreciate wanting to take this back and say how might we fill out this canvas a little differently, that’s more meaningful where everyone is more engaged.

Kathy Ditmore:
Interesting. The dialogue. Yeah, not in a vacuum. We have one more.

Speaker 28:
Do I go?

Kathy Ditmore:
Mm-hmm.

Speaker 28:
Okay. One of the things that was interesting for our table that I had to adjust is … We picked two for the onboarding and I actually facilitated my company’s onboarding transformation and so I’m sitting here going how do I share thoughts without, during a scramble, it’s human nature, who has experience at this and then you’re pulling in that but then I didn’t want to stifle other people’s ideas either. So, there was the natural tension of how do we have random ideas show up but who has actual experience doing this and how do you leverage it. So, I think, as facilitators, we have to leave space for the two types of people because I think there’s value in both.

Kathy Ditmore:
Indeed. Thank you for sharing that. And I appreciate that … Oh, we have one more over here.

Speaker 10:
I was just reflecting on a couple of comments around doing it all at once was challenging and it just made me think about how important it is for teams to be aligned on a north star. I was just wondering, if we had all agreed on our vision and then built out the template, would we have come from so many different perspectives? So, just something that dawned on me is like, “Oh, starting with the vision, starting with why”-

Kathy Ditmore:
Always start with that.

Speaker 10:
… “Is so important.”

Kathy Ditmore:
Thank you for that. Going to the compass, right? Always know the direction you’re going. Anybody else? We have one more, a couple more over in the back.

Speaker 28:
Yeah. So, I was struggling also, I noticed myself, I was reading every sentence and I was overwhelmed, my fault maybe. But I was thinking what if all of this was blank except for the colored items and we would have started with questioning what kinds of questions do we want to ask ourselves regarding guiding principles and, afterwards, maybe adding the missing important questions, et cetera. So, you take more ownership as a team or an organization towards what’s guiding principles for us instead of saying these aspects.

Kathy Ditmore:
Right. And that’s fantastic. Yes, the tool is intended for you to create your path forward together. Questions offered are certainly just for the purposes of today and I think that’s a wonderful idea to maybe, as a team, figure out what is it you really want to be answering about your project. Speaking to the discord, you might want to think about as a facilitator who you have in the room. So, do you want to do this with your senior leaders separately from your teams first, especially if you’re working on the vision, and then work with your teams and maybe one senior leader or your teams alone and then bring everybody together but it’s all about bringing that alignment. I heard looking at the whole canvas and so, for the purposes today, yes, I shared the whole canvas. But as a facilitator, you would probably block off the blocks that you don’t want to see with your group because, indeed, it can be overwhelming to dig into this.

So, I think there have been a lot of creative ideas here offered around how it could be used and so, hopefully, folks have some thoughts on how that might apply as you bring it back. So, I’m not going to make you redo your vision but I’d be curious what people think if you’d been offered a detour. So, somebody here had mentioned dialogue. I was doing this in a vacuum. Really, the tool is intended to promote dialogue. So, if you’ve been offered a detour after doing your vision, how would that have changed your discussions? How would the tool help you? How might you use it or not? Any thoughts on that?

John Rabasa:
Hi, Kathy, John Rabasa. So, I took from this that it was like a discovery tool where you had a lot of different prompts and so this is, as you said, a living document where things may bubble up that then informs, answer the question of your vision so you make sure you don’t leave things out. I look at these detours and I think that’s probably the information that you might pick up along the way and some of them are actually very helpful because they give you more definition.

Kathy Ditmore:
Indeed. And so, when you encounter these detours, whether you use a tool like this or something else within your teams, how are you evaluating that together on what those impacts are? Again, that tool to guide that discussion. Anybody else?

Robert Britton:
Yeah, I was going to … My name is Robert Britton.

Kathy Ditmore:
Hi, Robert.

Robert Britton:
I was going to add to this that I think the timing always gets people. Especially in a workshop, you’re like, “In the interest of time or because of time or take this for 10 minutes,” and I think what we do is we shut down our thinking and it’s not really exploratory. So, when you add these detours, I think that also gives us that breath of, you know what, if we don’t get it all today, we can come back to it. So, as facilitators, I think we also need to find ways to give them space afterwards to say, hey, you’re not going to be done when you’re here, this is just a starting point so you can keep going once you leave here.

Kathy Ditmore:
Indeed, thank you. Progress over perfection. We have another one over there.

Speaker 32:
Right. So, when I saw the detour, we were doing the employee experience and that was like, “Okay, yeah, you need to ask the people that are going to go through the change what … you need to get their inputs, design it around what they prefer.” And then it triggered something, I don’t know why, a second point, sorry for hogging the mic here, but when do you go and how deep do you go into this type of exercise. And sometimes just getting to vision can take days and weeks depending on what it is. So, I’m curious what other people think about that and what you think about that.

Kathy Ditmore:
Yeah, it’s like the theme I’m picking up here which ties into this is adapting. This is iterative, this is not a once and done experiment or tool. It’s not once and done, use it as initiation. I’ll show some other points, there’s various points where you’ll use it. So, you mentioned vision could take a long time and it does. I’ve had a vision take five weeks to develop with eight sponsors, that was quite a challenge just to get to the vision and that’s all we focused on. And then, after that, we were able to start digging into some of these other areas and it’s almost like peeling back the layers of an onion. You might start and only get so far and then it marinates, people start moving down a path. You might be building out your plan, you might be mobilizing your resources, you might be working through your procurement process if you’re bringing in a new solution, you might be still doing some of your pain points discussions, they may still be underway to work through things, you might be starting to do pre-mortems.

Whatever tools you’re using, out of those, more things will come out that bring richness to your project, your goals and how you need to work together so you’re always coming back to this. It’s also recommended to make this visible, whether you’re using a Miro board, some people post it on a wall although I know many of us are hybrid or remote now. I often will take sections and make sure that, when I go in a meeting with sponsors, we go back to the vision. If something comes up, how does it play into our guiding principles? So, I’m always coming back to these and so you have to think about what’s important to you and your team, your sponsors, your project leads, your stakeholders that you need to keep bringing back to them. Because they may say, “Oh, yeah, we said that but …” I don’t know if that helps. So, it’s like layers of the onion, digging, the details will surface over time. It’s a little more agile approach to change.

Carrie:
I’m Carrie. My sense is you asked how the detours might have changed things and, if our vision is visionary and broad and big enough, then the detours should … They’re a gut check to ladder up to that to ensure that our vision is really truly the north star and that the detours should be a part of that.

Kathy Ditmore:
Yeah, definitely. Thank you. Anybody else? So, I’m going to share … This clicker’s not … Got to get our check our bearings. So, how would you connect this to your practice? We’ve heard a few things here, I hear folks starting to think about this. Any ideas? It’s okay if it marinates.

Speaker 8:
Thank you. I have more than one word. For me, looking at this and thinking about the different boxes, it seems to me that some of these would be way more flexible than others. And so, while nothing is locked down, there are areas like guiding principles or vision that maybe, if those are starting to be in question because of the tactics of engagement, that goes up to another level of leadership versus my teams would be able to really be in the tactics of what engagement is. And so, I think that that is really helpful and something that I would bring back to my practice.

Kathy Ditmore:
Yeah, thank you for sharing that. We have one over here.

Speaker 19:
Just a question. When you said a minute ago the long vision exercise that was five weeks, wondering how you landed that, how you knew you were done and did the map help? Did you go into significance of benefits and cross connect that or was it totally unrelated to that?

Kathy Ditmore:
So, with that particular audience, not everybody, when you present the canvas, they’re like, “Ah,” the eyes glaze over. I think your head’s like … Right? And you don’t have to use this canvas, any canvas but it’s really helped to guide your conversations. You can use other tools. You had asked earlier how would I do this with my sponsors. Sometimes I’m interviewing the sponsors individually, I’m collating the information and I’m sharing it out to them to make sure we’re theming it correctly and we’re then evolving a vision together. Sometimes that’s an interesting exercise because it surfaces, they haven’t necessarily talked to each other, so it surfaces a lot of those polarities or personal agendas or something else that may not tie into what I’m getting from the most senior sponsor. So, you can use different methods to surface this information and bring it together. Okay, that’s it. Anybody else?

Tamara:
I guess the first thing I would say, hi, I’m Tamara. First of all, I applaud you and everyone else who is willing to get up and present because I think facilitating a group of facilitators, speaking of F words, is the f’in hardest thing on the planet-

Kathy Ditmore:
Terrifying.

Tamara:
… because it’s hard. And so, I also want to thank you for starting with your reminders that you really asked us to stay curious and to lean into it and make it real. I really appreciate that because this gave me an opportunity to think about my own impulses as a participant facilitator. But I recognized I have a lot of impulses around the use of posters, I use a lot of these too and what I realized is, oh, when you put something in front of me, I want to read every single word, I want to make sure I got it right, how do I get an A plus, what are we going to do. But I think that it helped me realize that I have to rethink the use of some of these tools to be thoughtful about different ways that people start to enter into something like a shared space like this. So, anyway, thank you.

Kathy Ditmore:
Thank you. I’ve got a couple minutes and I’m happy to keep talking about the tool after. I want to share a couple of things. Somebody asked, “Where would you use this?” I’ve mentioned it, anywhere. Use it at project initiation, you could use it as a health check, you can use it in your strategy sessions, you can use it when you encounter detours, when you need to do a project rescue, that poor guy, just lost. You can use it for your readiness checks, you can use it for your resource shifts, you can use it any point you need to align or realign, when you’re onboarding teams, when you’re offboarding someone, who’s still filling that spot, what does that mean to how you’re approaching things and you can use it at the beginning when you’re trying to develop your strategy.

Quick example of how I might use this from a rescue perspective or when I have a project going off track. This one, I might do with not the entire team but pieces of my team. So, the paper that you have has a bunch of questions. So, I might take one of these that’s filled out for what I know about the project but then I’m going to look at it and go, “Mmm, what’s really happening?”

Speaker 35:
H, M, L, C?

Kathy Ditmore:
Oh, I’m going to get into that. High, medium, low, complete and a green check mark. So, when I identify gaps, I might talk to my sponsors and say this is a high impact to our success or a medium impact or a low impact that might prioritize what we need to work on next. You see that it was something we talked about and it’s complete, we can remove it the next time we look at it. And a check mark is telling me we’ve got some good things going on too. By the way, we worked through some incremental process milestones, we’re going to see some winds along the way and generate some noise. Someone had asked about sponsors, it takes time to work through vision, indeed it does.

In this example, I happened to have a sponsor who had made a commitment that was not part of our original vision, our original benefits and so it resulted in a pause to the project where we needed to regroup and determine how serious that was because what they were asking for was a very different project. So, while we may have achieved what we all agreed to in our charter and our vision and our benefits, it wouldn’t be what the most senior stakeholder was looking for so it would have been considered a fail. So, this is another way to use the tool to evaluate how your project is doing. Okay, time. So, I think we’ve talked about our insights for the road ahead. Using a tool like this may help in identifying that clear north star, that purpose, that vision. It’s a tool for dialogue whether you use it as is or to help frame what discussion do you want to be having with your team so they can connect around that central vision and then, hopefully, you’re delivering together well.

My last one. So, I want to say thank you to my guides along the way, I’ve had plenty of people help me. Voltage Control and Douglas, Douglas took my phone call and was like, “Yeah,” but thank you for the invitation. This was terrifying and fun and I can go down many rabbit holes and it was really hard to pick which rabbit hole to go down. John Rabasa, amazing guide and mentor. Erin Nicole Gordon of The Wayfind, she was very helpful and I really appreciated her guidance that she gave me. Mark Reilley is my boss, he’s an amazing boss, he’s super encouraging at Pew. And my dear friends Claudia who couldn’t be here this year, Randy Logan and Penny Potts, they, any phone call, just let me ramble on for hours even though I’m sure their eyes were glazing over. So, thank you all and I’m happy to chat with you at any point. Thanks.

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What does it mean to truly practice together? At Voltage Control, we believe that facilitation isn’t just a skill that can be mastered in isolation; it’s a collective pursuit. That’s why we call our community Facilitation Lab. The word “Lab” is no accident—it’s a nod to experimentation, mutual support, and a safe space where learning happens in real time. In a lab, things might fizzle, spark, or explode, but you’re never alone when it does. That shared commitment to exploration builds the kind of trust that enables deep, transformational growth.

Collective practice is about more than polishing facilitation techniques—it’s about building the muscle to adapt, to hold space, and to grow alongside others. It’s a culture of curiosity where people show up, not just to get it right, but to try it out. Facilitators at every stage—from aspiring to seasoned—gather at our meetups not to show off but to get better, together. And in that space, there’s freedom to stretch boundaries, push comfort zones, and play with new tools in ways you rarely get to do in client sessions or corporate meetings.

There’s a kind of magic that happens when you practice with peers who are also committed to learning. Vulnerability becomes a strength. Reflection becomes a shared act. And you stop thinking of practice as preparation for “the real thing”—because this is the real thing. The community becomes your classroom. Over time, those shared experiences build a library of insight that we draw from in moments of challenge and growth.

What Collective Practice Really Means

When we say “collective practice,” we’re not just referring to a group setting. We mean engaging in an active, live environment where each person is simultaneously learning and contributing to others’ learning. In our Practice Playgrounds, you might be leading a breakout as the facilitator one moment, and embodying a skeptical participant the next. That fluidity is part of the learning. You’re always one pivot away from a new perspective.

This kind of environment creates space for not only skill development but self-awareness. We’ve seen it function as a sort of litmus test—who’s willing to show up in public and practice with a bit of edge? Who’s ready to explore the less comfortable, more emergent aspects of facilitation? It reveals who’s confident, who’s adaptable, and who’s curious enough to keep going. And that’s often the truest mark of a great facilitator: curiosity and humility.

Collective practice also flips the script on expertise. You might enter a session thinking you’re there to help someone else, only to realize halfway through that your biggest insight came from playing the role of participant. There’s a particular kind of empathy that forms when you experience both sides of the room. It sharpens your ability to read group energy, respond in the moment, and build workshops that meet people where they are.

It’s also worth noting that the rhythm of collective practice builds endurance. The more you participate, the more facilitation feels like a natural, fluid way of being rather than something you have to prep for or put on. It’s less of a performance and more of a practice in presence.

The Rise of Participant Practice

A fascinating thread that’s emerged recently in our Labs is the idea of participant practice. That is, how can someone get better at facilitation—even if they’re never “in charge” of the meeting? In one North America session, we heard from someone discovering the magic of facilitation while stuck in a non-leadership role. Her story sparked a reflection: How do we show up as excellent meeting participants?

Being a “magical meeting participant” isn’t about taking over. It’s about modeling curiosity, asking great questions, and supporting the flow of the session. It means noticing dynamics and finding ways to offer subtle assists—like that personal trainer who doesn’t lift the bar for you but gives just enough support to help you make the rep. That type of contribution can shift the mood of the room and unlock more productive conversations.

Leaders who adopt this mindset can shift their organizational culture, not by commanding the room but by creating space for others to step up. It’s a form of facilitation through participation—activating others by how you show up. It’s how cultures of collaboration are born. In many cases, it’s the seed of a long-term transformation.

The idea of participant practice also acknowledges that facilitation isn’t always about holding the marker. Sometimes it’s about holding the energy. The ability to sense when to lean in or hold back is a powerful form of emotional intelligence. And we’ve seen firsthand how those who embody this ethos gain influence and trust far beyond their title.

Cultivating Feedback Culture

At the heart of collective practice is feedback. Not the kind that’s buried in performance reviews, but real-time, practical, human feedback. Our go-to tool for this is the classic Plus/Delta—what worked and what could be improved. But the magic isn’t in the tool; it’s in the culture that surrounds it. The questions invite honesty, but the environment makes that honesty land with care.

In our redesigned Practice Playground format, we now offer additional practice roles—not just as facilitators, but as openers and closers too. And even though those segments aren’t formally debriefed, participants still crave that feedback. We’ve seen people linger after the session to exchange thoughts, ask questions, and reflect together. These spontaneous sidebars often become some of the richest parts of the experience.

What’s remarkable is how this feedback culture fuels a loop of continuous improvement. Participants leave with insights they can immediately apply, and facilitators walk away with a clearer sense of how they landed. And because it’s all framed as practice—not performance—feedback isn’t threatening. It’s welcomed. When people know they’re in a space that celebrates iteration, they’re more likely to take risks and stretch themselves.

We’ve even seen cases where someone who received tough but caring feedback one week returns the next with a dramatically improved approach. That kind of resilience, powered by community, is what makes collective practice so special.

Global Collective Practice

Between mid-April and mid-May, we launched one of our largest experiments in collective practice to date. In collaboration with Jake Knapp and his new book Click, we facilitated over 70 workshops around the world. Each event focused on practicing the Differentiators activity—a tool from the new Foundation Sprint—and the results were electrifying.

This global sprint wasn’t just about showcasing a new method. It was a real-time prototype of how distributed practice can build shared momentum. From San Francisco to Amsterdam, Austin to Toronto, facilitators and participants rolled up their sleeves and tried it together. People shared photos, stories, and lessons on social media. New faces joined the community. It clicked. And that shared momentum continues to ripple out.

We also saw the power of iteration in action. The original Easy Brew case study evolved with each city. In North America, we trimmed it down and added fictional competitors to reduce cognitive overload. Varsha expanded the options in Amsterdam with two new case studies. This layering of improvements is what collective practice looks like in action.

What started as a celebratory launch transformed into a collaborative design process. Each facilitator added their own touch, and together we shaped something more refined than any one of us could have created alone. That’s the hallmark of a thriving practice culture—distributed ownership and creative contribution.

Practicing Belonging

One of the simplest but most effective ways to warm up a room for collective practice is through connection—and the Common Denominator activity delivers every time. It’s fast, fun, and reveals shared traits you might not expect. We break people into small groups, task them with finding commonalities, and see who can find the most.

At first glance, it feels like a game. But look deeper, and you’ll see the scaffolding of collaboration forming. The activity builds pattern recognition, sparks laughter, and sets the tone for open, curious engagement. You’d be surprised how fast strangers feel like a team when they discover they’ve all traveled to the same country or have the same weird food habit.

We’ve run Common Denominator at regional Labs, at SXSW, and even as a delay tactic when sessions needed a time buffer. It’s versatile and always delivers. It also provides a fascinating window into group dynamics: which teams optimize for speed and strategy, and which ones go deep on nuance and connection? Both reveal something valuable.

We’ve noticed that how a group approaches Common Denominator often mirrors how they collaborate. Are they focused on getting the “right answers” or on getting to know one another? Are they competing or co-creating? These moments of play hold deep insight into how we work together.

Designed for Real Growth

Over the last year we’ve been listening to feedback and iterating on our process and have developed a V2 of the Practice Playground format. Version 2 drops the open space section where participants brainstorm growth edges. Instead, we come prepared with a specific method—like Differentiators from the Foundation Sprint—to practice. This small shift has had a huge impact.

It turns out that anchoring the session around a shared activity frees up cognitive load and allows more time for role play. Rather than trying to translate personal growth goals into facilitation challenges on the spot, participants can inject their challenges into the method itself.

We also added new framing: before jumping into practice, each group discusses where and how this method might show up in their work. What’s likely to go wrong? Where are the edge cases? This primes the group with scenarios to role-play, making the experience richer and more grounded.

The feedback? Overwhelmingly positive. People want more time to practice. More clarity. More structure. V2 delivers that, while still leaving room for creativity and self-discovery. And because the practice is live and iterative, even those new to the method can contribute meaningfully.

This format also reduces the cognitive overhead for facilitators leading the session. With a shared focus and clear agenda, it’s easier to guide the group and spot emergent learning moments. We’re seeing more confidence from new facilitators and deeper engagement from returning ones.

Graceful Authority & the Invitation to Practice

What emerges from this kind of ongoing, public practice is something we call graceful authority. It’s not command-and-control. It’s not about being the expert in the room. It’s authority earned through presence, empathy, and adaptability. You’re trusted not because you always know the answer, but because you’re willing to explore it with others.

Facilitators who thrive in collective practice spaces don’t posture. They co-create. They get better not in secret, but in public. And that’s the kind of leadership we need more of—in our organizations, our communities, and our world. In many ways, this is the future of leadership: collaborative, emergent, and shared.

So here’s your invitation: come practice with us. Join an upcoming Facilitation Lab meetup. Try Common Denominator with your team. Bring a method to your next meeting and let others try it on for size. The point isn’t perfection. It’s progress—together.

Whether you’re new to facilitation or a seasoned guide, there’s room to grow. And there’s no better way to do it than in community.

That’s the power of collective practice.

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At the 2025 Facilitation Lab Summit, Dom Michalec led an engaging and thought-provoking workshop titled “Facilitating Transformation,” focusing on the practical aspects of creating lasting change—both personally and professionally. With a mix of theory, hands-on activities, and personal reflection, Dom took attendees on a journey of understanding how transformation happens and how we, as facilitators, can support others in driving meaningful change.

Defining Transformation: Starting with Ourselves

Dom began the session by addressing the essential question: What does transformation really mean? In his simple yet profound definition, transformation is about creating lasting change that sticks—whether for ourselves, our colleagues, our businesses, or even communities. The focus was clear: to facilitate meaningful transformation in others, we must first practice the skills of change within ourselves.

“Start with yourself,” Dom encouraged. “Practice the skills of transformation so you can help others develop those skills too.”

This message set the tone for the entire session, where personal growth and reflection were key to building effective facilitation practices. Dom emphasized that true transformation begins from within and that facilitators must be willing to embark on their own journeys of change.

The Power of Tiny Habits in Facilitating Transformation

A significant part of Dom’s session focused on how to make transformation more practical and accessible. Drawing from Behavior Design principles, Dom shared insights from Dr. BJ Fogg’s work on creating small, lasting changes through tiny habits. According to Fogg, one of the most practical ways to introduce change is to start small—tiny habits that can be integrated easily into everyday life. These small steps create momentum and build the foundation for larger, lasting changes.

“Tiny habits are not about big transformations all at once. They’re about starting small and building the muscle for change,” Dom explained. “You don’t need motivation to start. You just need to start.”

Breaking Down the Process of Behavior Change

Throughout the session, Dom guided participants through a hands-on exploration of behavior change. One of the key takeaways was the Fogg Behavior Model, which explains that behavior happens when three elements converge: motivation, ability, and a prompt.

• Motivation is the desire to perform the behavior.
• Ability refers to how easy or difficult the behavior is.
• Prompt is the reminder or cue to take action.

The key takeaway? To change behavior, we must focus on making the behavior as easy as possible to do, which eliminates the need for high motivation. For example, Dom shared a practical approach to creating tiny habits by breaking down large goals into small, actionable steps. By focusing on simplicity and celebrating success, even the smallest behavior can become a powerful habit.

Creating Lasting Change through Celebration and Identity

A central concept Dom introduced was the importance of celebration in cementing new habits. Unlike traditional notions of reward, Dom highlighted that immediate positive emotions, rather than delayed rewards, help behaviors become ingrained into our routines.

“Celebrate every small success,” Dom emphasized. “It’s the emotion that drives habits, not repetition. The more positive emotion you associate with a habit, the more automatic it becomes.”

Another critical point Dom made was about the role of identity in habit formation. He asked participants to reflect on their habits and how those habits align with their identity. When we design habits that reflect who we are and what we value, those behaviors are more likely to stick.

Practical Exercises and Insights

Dom’s session was filled with interactive exercises that helped participants apply these concepts to their own lives. One such activity invited attendees to reflect on a habit that sparks joy in their lives and how that habit reinforces their identity. By sharing these reflections with others, participants were able to connect with their motivations and understand how small habits can play a significant role in creating lasting change.

Through group discussions and individual reflection, participants discovered common themes of identity reinforcement, such as creative pursuits or physical activity, that enhance both personal and professional growth. These simple, everyday habits were identified as critical in building a foundation for greater transformation.

Key Takeaways from Dom Michalec’s Session

• Transformation begins with small steps: Focus on tiny habits that are easy to do and align with your identity.
• Celebrate successes: Positive emotions, immediately following a behavior, help solidify it into a lasting habit.
• Clarify your aspirations: Align your habits with long-term outcomes to ensure lasting change.
• Behavior design works: Focus on motivation, ability, and prompts to create change that sticks.

Dom’s session at the 2025 Facilitation Lab Summit provided both actionable insights and valuable tools for facilitators to integrate transformation into their own lives and the lives of others. His approach reinforced that lasting change doesn’t require large, dramatic shifts but instead focuses on small, consistent actions.

Watch the full video below:

Transcript of Dom’s Session:

Dom Michalec:
Thank you, thank you. Thank you, Eric. Everyone hear me all right? Perfect. Before we get started, just to bring a little energy in the room, I want to use this as an opportunity to express a little bit of gratitude for Voltage Control for hosting us. Jamie, helping to put everything together. Douglas, Eric, y’all make it run really smooth in the background. Really appreciate that.

So to get started today, obviously you can see the title of this time, Facilitating Transformation. And I think it behooves us to have a really nice working definition of what we mean by transformation. How many folks in here have been a part of a transformation effort at work, and we have no idea what it really means at the end of the day, right? When I think about transformation, I think about it in a very simple terms. Creating lasting change, whether that’s lasting change for ourselves, for others, for our colleagues, for businesses, societies, communities. Creating lasting change that actually sticks. And in thinking about it that way, I think when we go into the session right now, the best way to practice those skills of change, those skills of transformation, of creating a lasting change, is to start with ourselves. Start with ourselves, practice the skills, so when we’re ready, we can take it out to the world and we can help other people gain these skills as well.

So, what are we talking about today? In the word of modern day philosopher and my favorite athlete of all time, Allen Iverson, we’re talking about practice. Not the game, not the game, but practice. And early this morning, we practiced a bunch of different skills. Skills of changing the narrative, creating change through how we tell stories, creating change for the conditions, creating psychological safety, creating that safety net, and creating change for our own and mapping our own change journey. So today what we’re going to do, is we’re going to practice skills of change of creating habits for ourselves. We’re going to create behavior change in ourselves. I’m going to show you, as Eric alluded to, why starting small, starting tiny is usually the right place to start no matter where you are.

So for the past, what, at this point seven years, I’ve been in pursuit of answers to this question. What’s the most practical way to create a lasting change? Does anyone have any ideas? Just throw it out there. I’ll give my answer here in a moment. Yes, sir.

Speaker 2:
Just start.

Dom Michalec:
I’m sorry?

Speaker 2:
Just start.

Dom Michalec:
Just start. I love it. What other ways, what other practical ways have you? Yes, please.

Speaker 3:
Create the environment that [inaudible 00:02:58].

Dom Michalec:
Create the environment. You read the book, that’s great. All right, who else? Yes.

Speaker 4:
Document it, and then reinforce the positive feeling.

Dom Michalec:
Document it and reinforce those feelings. Yeah, okay. One more, we’ll take one more. I think I saw your hand go first.

Speaker 5:
I read the [inaudible 00:03:15] book and I think you say start small.

Dom Michalec:
Yes.

Speaker 5:
[inaudible 00:03:20].

Dom Michalec:
Small is fast there yeah, exactly, tiny. You can start at any time, no matter the conditions you’re in.

So, what we’re going to do today is we’re going to walk through basically a workshop to together where we use what I consider to be the most practical way to introduce change into your life, whether it’s personal, professional, whatever it may be. Everyone’s here for different reasons, but we’re all here to learn. We’re all here to help create change in our societies and our businesses and ourselves. Everyone’s here for different reasons, that have different motivations, different aspirations, different outcomes you’re trying to shoot for after you leave this summit. But I’ve designed this session in a way that no matter what your aspirations or your intended outcomes are for coming to the summit, you can walk away with practical change strategies that you can take with you and put into your life immediately after leaving.

So, I think this is a great working definition, or not working definition, but a great quote from, as Eric alluded to, a colleague of mine, Dr. BJ Fogg. I’ve had the great pleasure of being able to work with BJ for the past four years. There’s really two people that inspire me in this line of work that I do, one being BJ, and another one is here in the room today. Steph Weldy. Steph Weldy has been working with BJ for, what is it 10 years now?

Steph Weldy:
Just shy, yeah.

Dom Michalec:
Yeah, just shy. Anyways, so this quote, it will help set the scene for what we plan on doing today. There’s really only three ways that you can create lasting change, according to BJ. Have an epiphany, change your environment. Someone said, redesign your environment back here, I believe. Change your environment or change your habits in small ways. I don’t know about anyone else in this room, but I’m not a magician. I can’t create epiphanies for myself. Maybe you can, I don’t know. If you can’t, that’s cool. So where can we start? If we want to create change, lasting change transformation in ourselves, where do we start? We’re going to change our habits today in tiny ways.

So as we get into this session, again, I’m going to give pretty detailed instructions, but that doesn’t mean that they’re going to always make sense to you. So I do encourage folks as we go through today’s session, you got a question? Throw your hand up. Dom, that didn’t make sense. Dom, what about this? Dom, whatever, just go ahead and raise your question. Go ahead and interrupt, we have plenty of time to get through this.

So, just to get the blood flowing in true Voltage Control fashion, I want to ask everyone to get up. And we’re going to talk to each other. So I know it may be a challenge, you may have talked to a lot of folks already. I want to ask you to try to find someone new in the room. And I’m going to invite you to first think about this for yourself. What is that one habit that you have in your life today that sparks an absolute sense of joy? And how does that habit that you have serve your identity or some aspect of your identity? Think about that for a moment. What I want everyone to do, is I want you to pair up and I want you to share your reflection with a colleague or someone in the room. Let’s start with someone who you haven’t met yet. So, let’s start there. Share your reflection to those questions.

So we’ve had a chance to talk to two other people about that habit in their life that sparks absolute joy. And we asked them, what about that habit is reinforcing your identity? How does it serve your identity? We’d love to hear from someone and don’t share your, don’t feel free to… You don’t have to share the habits themselves, but what’d you learn from your conversations? What maybe themes did you draw from your conversations with folks? Anyone? Please, yes.

Speaker 10:
It’s such simple things that we’re doing, they’re not big activities, but it was tiny things that have spark joy.

Dom Michalec:
Yeah, cool. Awesome. Yeah, Stacy, is it? Okay, cool. I can see the tag.

Stacy:
Most people I talked to did something specifically in the morning, first thing.

Dom Michalec:
Yeah.

Stacy:
Do mornings, or-

Dom Michalec:
Sorry. We’re going fast here, we’re going fast here. Yeah, usually, I mean, we’ll get in this in a moment, but identifying the aspects of your routine. Usually morning routines are great and are great anchor moments for creating habits. Your name?

Frank:
Frank.

Dom Michalec:
Frank. Sorry, I couldn’t see your name tag. Go ahead.

Frank:
So actually, we had the same habit, is to focus on something creative, both with art. So using art as a way to be creative, and I noticed how that spilled over into my work as well. So, it’s making sure that we take time out to kind of be creative.

Dom Michalec:
Cool.

Frank:
And find a creative pursuit, so.

Dom Michalec:
That’s awesome. We’ll take one more and I will let… Yep, that’s fine by me.

Speaker 9:
Both of us had a common habit around being active and healthy, and I think someone else said it, but just to do the thing and not… And I brought up the fact that you don’t want to rely on motivation because you won’t have it every day. So just do a little bit of it, even if you don’t feel like it.

Dom Michalec:
Cool, excellent. Yeah, so you’ll notice that in these conversations, at least what I noticed, I saw a lot of people light up when they got to talk about their favorite habit, even with a complete stranger. I’ve never met you before, I want to tell you about my favorite habit. I also heard some aspects of reinforcing parts of our identity, our creative side, our physical. Some folks identify they like to be physically fit and active and like to cultivate habits that push that part of our identity forward. What’s important to take away from this exercise is that, I believe you hit on it. I didn’t hear anyone talk about anything that took a lot of motivation to get. You’re already doing things that you wanted to do and you’re just finding those habits that help support you in doing that. And as we get into more of the meat and potatoes of behavior design, I do, if you have a pen, paper, there’s a couple takeaways and I’ll call them out here throughout.

But here’s your first takeaway, the best way to create lasting change, and that’s for yourself, that’s for others, communities and businesses, is to do two things. These are called the maxims of behavior design. Help yourself or others do the things that you already want to do. And the second aspect is, help yourself or others feel successful. And we’ll talk about those two aspects a little bit more detail here. We’ll get a little bit systematic with this, but if you take anything away from this session, when you think about designing habits or starting new habits in your life, ask yourself, am I doing, is this something that’s, do I already want to do this? Is this something I already want to do? Are you helping yourself do the things you already want to do? And how can I make myself feel successful or others feel successful while doing it?

So, three superpowers you’re going to walk away with today, at least I hope you do. I want to do my best to make sure you get there. The first one is, you’re going to be able to explain what causes a behavior to become a habit. I’m going to get the trick answer out of the way. It’s not repetition. You won’t be able to analyze your behavior, any other person’s behavior like a true behavioral scientist. We’ll get into the model of that here in a moment. And the last one, which is my personal favorite and the whole reason why I’m here, is to help you intentionally design any new habit you want into your life. It’s really important to take into consideration the aspect of your identity that you want this habit to serve.

Today, we’re all facilitators. When we all go home, we’re brothers, we’re sisters, wives, husbands, aunts, uncles, and we nurture those aspects of our identity. So, whichever aspect of your identity or where you are, the context matters, I guess is what I’m trying to say. So when you think about the habits you want to design today, think about the context in which those habits are being designed and which aspects of your identity those habits are served. Are those okay superpowers? Are we cool with that? We walk away feeling pretty good about these like yeah, this is a good session? Okay, cool. All right, so those are your three superpowers and here are the models and methods that are going to help you gain those superpowers.
And these models and methods are the models and methods of a system called Behavior Design. The models are there to help you think clearly about your own behavior and the methods are there to help you design for behavior change. First model we’ll talk about is obviously the Fogg Behavior Model. It’s a universal model for understanding human behavior, and this is not all-encompassing, by the way. There’s a bunch of different models we could possibly go through. So I had to kind of pick and choose which ones I wanted to introduce during the session. And we’ll talk about the Spectrum of Automaticity too.

The main method we’ll talk about today, which I believe some folks maybe are already familiar with, is the method of tiny habits and the various steps to create a tiny habit. Going from a big lofty aspiration or a desired outcome, and systematically breaking that down into very tiny small steps that we can take and removing the guesswork along the way. So clarifying the aspiration, we’re going to explore our behavior options, and this is going to be a very personal session, by the way. So there will be aspects of engagement and sharing and all that stuff, but for the most part, this going to be very personal because I think habits are a fairly personal and intimate aspect of our lives. But we’re going to go through behavior matching as well, we’re going to show you how to take a habit that you want and scale it down or start with the starter step to get going. And help you find a good prompt, we’re going to help you celebrate that success.

But first, let’s start with the Fogg Behavior Model. Who here is already familiar with the Fogg Behavior Model? Steph, don’t you? Okay, cool. Got a couple folks. Again, the Fogg Behavior Model, and this is obviously named after the guy who created it, Dr. BJ Fogg, Stanford behavior scientist 20, 30 years, considered preeminent expert in this space. And when you write out the model, it goes something like this. A behavior happens when, and when I talk about a behavior, it’s any behavior. So like a behavior, or a habit is a type of behavior. A one-time behavior is obviously a behavior. Stopping behavior, it’s a type of behavior. A behavior happens when three elements converge at the same moment in time. Motivation to do the behavior, the ability to do the behavior in a prompt, a cue, someone that says, “Hey, do this behavior now.”
So when all three of those elements converge at the same time you will see a behavior performed. And if any three of these elements are missing, if a prompt is missing, if you have low ability or low motivation, you’ll see here in a moment, you will not see the behavior, you will not perform the behavior. And you can actually visualize this model on two dimensions across the vertical axis here we can plot out motivation, and motivation is a range from high to low or anything in between. So we can have high motivation to do a behavior, all the way down to low motivation to do a behavior. And like motivation, ability is also a range from high to low. But instead of saying high to low, we say easy to do for high ability, all the way down to hard to do.

And now I want to use an example here to kind of put this model into action. Let’s say the behavior we’re trying to get someone else to do, is we want them to donate $100 to the local dog shelter, let’s start there. If they have high motivation to donate to the local dog shelter and it’s fairly easy for them to do, we plot them up here in the upper right-hand corner of the Fogg Behavior Model. When prompted to make that donation, they’ll reliably do that behavior every single time. Conversely, if someone has low motivation to donate to the local dog shelter or animal shelter, I don’t know, maybe they don’t like animals for some reason. If you don’t like dogs, that’s a different conversation, but that’s just me. Maybe it’s really hard for them to do, right? Maybe they’re just not able to do it, maybe they don’t have enough money to do it. Maybe they just don’t have the time to do it, it takes too much physical effort to do. We plot them down here. What prompted to make that donation, they will not make that donation.

What I haven’t shown you yet, is there’s actually a really cool relationship between these first two elements, motivation and ability, and that relationship is represented by this cool little green curve line called the action threshold. Essentially, this action threshold is here to signify one thing. If anyone is above this action threshold or action line at the point of being prompted, they’ll reliably do the behavior every single time, that includes yourself. We like to say prompts are effective above the action line. And if anyone is below the action line of the action threshold at the point of being prompted, they will not do the behavior.

Speaker 10:
Is ability, ability, is it subjective or is it objective?

Dom Michalec:
Ability is dependent upon the person. So I’ll give you an example here. If I ask Jeff Bezos who loves dogs to make a donation to the ASPCA, he has high ability to do it. He has the time, he has the money, it’s not that hard for him, but maybe a college student who’s strapped for money and they don’t have a lot, they don’t have the ability to make the donation, they’re in class, it’s too hard. When they’re prompted to do it, they’ll fall below. So it’s all dependent upon the person. Ability is not a universal, everyone has the same ability to do a behavior. Everyone has different elements of ability to do a behavior.
I’m showing this to you now because I want you to think clearly about this model as you go through the next steps, and we’ll do some activities here to create our habits. What you notice here is like I said, there’s a relationship between motivation and ability. It’s called a compensatory relationship. The more you have of one, the less you need of another to get above the action line. So what you see here is if someone’s highly motivated to do a behavior, think about yourself in this example, if you’re super motivated to do a behavior. You can do both easy and hard to do behaviors. And if something is easy to do, you don’t have to rely so much on motivation in order to do that behavior. Hence, why we’re here today.

When we design our habits, we’re going to design our habits in a way where we can get into that upper right-hand corner, kind of stack the deck in our favor to get into that upper right-hand corner. We’re going to align on an aspiration or desired outcome, something that endures from a motivation perspective, because we know our motivation fluctuates from context to context over time, but we’re going to align to an aspiration or a desired outcome that we have, something that has enduring motivation, and we’re going to pick very specific behaviors, make them super easy to do, so we can reliably be above that action line when we prompt ourselves to do those behaviors. So that’s why I wanted to introduce this to you now, and this is a great troubleshooting, this is a great model for analyzing behavior.

So we think about maybe outside the context of this workshop, we’re at work, we want people to show up to a meeting and people are showing up late or not showing up at all. First thing we need to ask ourselves is, what’s making it hard for those people to show up to the meeting on time? Usually, a lot of times we start with motivation. We think, oh, if we just motivate people, they’ll do the things that we want them to do. We just need to motivate them, motivate them, motivate them.
What I hope you take away here is, ability is probably where we should start. How can we make things easier for people to do, for things we want them to do, including ourselves? And for things we don’t want people to do, how can we make them harder? How can we get them below the action line? So thinking about this, this adds a little bit more of an element of first starting with, how do we make something easy? How do we make a behavior easier to do so we can create a habit out of it? And then we’ll talk about motivation later, because motivation fluctuates over time, as we know.

It’s oftentimes that we hear when people create habits that they start at a desired outcome or an aspiration or a goal, and they just kind of guess as to how to achieve that goal. I want to get better sleep, so I’m going to buy this fancy pillow, or I’m going to get these new sheets, or I’m going to get to bed at 9:00 PM every single night without fail, and they just scatter shot a bunch of different behaviors to hit that goal. When you clarify the aspiration, and you’ll see here in a moment when we explore behavior options, what we’re going to do, is we’re going to ask ourselves, if I could do anything, we’re going to generate a big list and we’re going to whittle it down to the ones that are most effective for you, instead of just guessing. It’s important to have a clarified aspiration or an outcome so we know which are going to be most effective for us moving forward, so we’re not just guessing.

I know we just flew through probably the hardest thing to do in behavior design, and I’m not going to just gloss over that fact. But again, we’re just practicing this, but I hope you see now that folks who studied, folks who use behavior design, we like to get very specific about the behaviors that we like to change, whether it’s our own or for others. And you’ll notice that a lot of times, and I think everyone here at one point in time raising a hand like, I’ve been a part of a change transformation. I’ve been a part of a transformation effort in the past. In the context of work, when you go back to work, maybe you’re already still in that transformation effort. When you go back to work and you hear people talk about what we need to get done in order to transform our business.

In my experience, I’m going to project a little bit, rarely will you ever hear them speak specifically about very specific behaviors that people need to do. They’ll speak in generalities. We need to create value chains, we need to align business incentives. The hell does that mean? What are people actually doing? So this is an opportunity for you to look at your behavior in other people’s behavior in a different lens and start maybe to coach them a little bit like, well, what do you mean by aligning incentives or creating value streams? What are people doing to… If you were to watch someone create a value stream, what are they doing in order to do that? You start to think about behavior, your own and theirs, in a little bit different way.

So what have we done up to this point? And continue working, I’m just going to keep talking here. So, what have we done up to this point? We’ve clarified an aspiration or a desired outcome that we want, whether it’s a professional, personal, whatever it may be, something that matters to us. We’ve explored various avenues to achieve that aspiration or desired outcome. Again, we did a generative exercise to just explore what we could possibly do to achieve something that matters to us. And now, we’ve done focus, this is called focus mapping, by the way. We’ve brought focus to the high-impact things that we want to do that allow us or help us achieve that aspiration or desired outcome.

Now we get to the meat and potatoes of the tiny and tiny habits. We’re going to start tiny. If you were to distill down this whole idea of creating these tiny habits, it really boils down to this. Take something you want to do, distill it down into its smallest form. Find where in your environment, in your life, that habit fits best, and nurture its growth. That’s no different than how you create habits naturally, now we’re just designing very specifically and systematically in a way that habits naturally form anyways. So, what are we going to do now? We’re going to take those golden behaviors and we’re going to make them, create the tiniest form possible, that’s still providing meaning to us at the same time.

In a moment here we’ll talk about, I’ll talk it about now, with the tiny habits recipe. Remember, can someone remind me what the three elements are? A behavior happens when three things come together. What are those three things?

Audience:
[inaudible 00:23:34].

Dom Michalec:
Okay, I heard it. We have this recipe set up this way because after I do a behavior, I will do my now new behavior and immediately celebrate by, we’ll get that here in a moment. The after I, we will focus here first. The after I is the anchor moment. You’re going to use your existing routine as your prompt. So it’s not going to be an external prompt, it’s not going to be your phone dinging, it’s not going to be you putting up a sticky note. You’re going to use your existing routine as a reminder to do your new habit. Things that you are

ady do consistently in your life, you’re going to use those as your reminder, and those are called anchor moments.
I will, that’s your scaled back gold behavior. That’s the new habit that you want in your life. So let’s find a good prompt for you. I already hear some folks talking about their morning routines, you’re already kind of ahead of the game here. That’s cool, that’s cool. We’re going to identify some good prompts for you. One more new term here I want to introduce is, identifying the trailing edge of that anchor moment. Identify instead of the first thing you do in a sequence in a starter step, you identify the last sequence of something you do in your daily, weekly, monthly routines, whatever it may be. And I’ll give you an example here.

I chose the prompt of brewing a cup of coffee in the morning to wipe down one countertop in the kitchen. This is important, because it matches the physical location of where I’m want to do my new behavior, matches the frequency, and in some aspects, it’s kind of thematic for me. So this is a good match for me because I was already in the kitchen brewing a cup of coffee, let me wipe down the countertop. But that wasn’t the trailing edge prompt, that prompt didn’t have its trailing edge identified.

So, what’s a trailing edge of brewing a cup of coffee, at least in my life? Press brew on the Nespresso machine. Anyone have a Nespresso machine or a Keurig or anything like that? Okay, y’all know you have to do something, you have to get the pod, you got to put the pod in, you got to check for water, make sure that there’s a cup. Hit the button. There’s actually four or five things that you do just to get a cup of coffee. So what’s the last thing that I do? I hit brew. Hitting that button is my prompt to wipe down the countertop in the kitchen. This is the power of using your existing routine, not reminders on your phone, not the dent, not sticky notes on your computer, using your existing routine to help you identify and do a new habit.
I want to talk about one more model. And again, the models are here to help you think clearly about behavior. The methods on the right are here to help you design for behavior change. So, I did have this cool little thing pulled up on Menti, but we’re going to skip it. I just want everyone to shout out some answers. What do you think causes a behavior to become a habit? I gave you a hint earlier, it’s not repetition. One more time.

Speaker 3:
Positive reinforcement.

Dom Michalec:
Positive reinforcement. Cool. Anyone else?

Speaker 3:
Desire.

Dom Michalec:
Desire? Is that what you said? Desire? Okay, great.

Speaker 3:
Knowing your why.

Dom Michalec:
Knowing your why, okay, cool. Okay, we have the scientists in the group. Yeah, yeah, absolutely.

Speaker 10:
It has a low cognitive load. I don’t have to think about it, it’s easy to do.

Dom Michalec:
Okay, we’ll definitely talk about automaticity for sure. One more. These are all great by the way. Do you have any other guesses as to what causes a behavior to become a habit?

Speaker 3:
[inaudible 00:27:08].

Dom Michalec:
I didn’t want anyone to say… Because I’m about to say “No, that’s wrong,” and I didn’t want to embarrass anyone. So I was like, “No, it’s not repetition.” Go ahead.

Speaker 3:
Reward.

Dom Michalec:
Reward? Okay, let’s talk about that for a moment, before we talk about… So Dr. Fogg likes to talk about these ideas of rewards. You hear about it in pop culture, you hear about it, where if you reward behavior you’re reinforcing the behavior. What’s important to take into consideration is that the word reward is kind of circling the right answer, but it depends on when that reward is given for the behavior. If it’s an incentive, frown to the future, that’s not going to create a positive emotion, which increases your automaticity. But if it happens immediately after you do a behavior, that’s getting closer to the answer. So we’ll talk about how celebration, creating positive emotions helps create that aspect. But be very careful when we use the word reward, the timing of the reward matters a lot.

So, let’s get into it. When we think about behaviors, let’s first talk about habits. When we talk about habits, usually we talk about them in terms of, these are things that we can do just automatically. It doesn’t take a lot of thought, it doesn’t take a lot of effort, it’s just boom, we do it. We jump in the car in the morning, we drive to work, sometimes we don’t even think about how we get there, and boom, we show up to work. Whatever it may be. So these are, habits are behaviors that are fairly automatic.

So you can think about behaviors living on a spectrum of automaticity. How automatic is this behavior? How automatic is that behavior? And you can think about this on a range from left to right, things with no automaticity, behaviors are choices or decisions that we have to make. Where am I going to go on vacation? What am I going to eat for dinner tonight? Which plane ticket am I going to buy to get to Austin, Texas for this summit? Which airline am I going to use? It takes deliberation and some choice in decision-making. Whereas behaviors with high automaticity are very automatic, you can almost think of them as reflexes. And on this range, you can think of anything towards the right-hand side as a very strong habit. You have very strong habits with high automaticity. Weaker habits with still some automaticity but not quite as much as your stronger habits, and then everything else to the left is not a habit.

So the question that I’ve been asking is, what causes a behavior to become more automatic? What causes a behavior to move closer to the right-hand side of this model? And I heard some great answers. I heard pretty much, I think some folks even got it correct. It’s not repetition. Emotions make behaviors more automatic, it’s the emotion that creates a habit. It’s not the repetition. I’ll ask a quick question before we move on here. How many folks have used Uber to get around town? Okay. How many times did you have to use Uber to know that it was superior to calling a cab? It felt amazing, right? It felt like you were just, it was magic. I just put in an address, a car came by, picked me up, whisked me up, nice person drove me to my destination. It felt amazing. Feeling that emotion, that positive emotion probably made you want to use Uber again the next time and the next time and the next time. So, it’s the emotion that created the habit.

The repetition makes a behavior easier to do. It gives you more skill to do that behavior. Lifting a five pound weight every day for five minutes, you’re going to get pretty skilled at that over time. It’s not the repetition that’s creating a habit. You’re creating a skill. It’s making it… that five pound weight’s going to get easier and easier to lift in every subsequent time. So you’re increasing your ability through repetition, but it’s actually the emotion that creates the conditions for a habit to form. And someone had mentioned dopamine, the brain reward circuitry. We won’t get into the science of it, but essentially, yeah.
So, why am I talking about this? In order to wire in these habits effectively, we need to find, we need to somehow create a positive emotion. And we think about creating a positive emotion as a skill that we can bring into our tiny habit, is celebrating our success. After I hit the Nespresso button, I will wipe down one countertop and give myself a fist bump, create a positive emotion immediately after doing that behavior, so it wires in the habit and I feel good, I feel successful, and I want to come back and do it again. So after I brew my Nespresso machine or I have to hit brew on my Nespresso machine, I will wipe down one countertop in the kitchen and immediately celebrate by, yeah, give myself a fist bump and smile in the… Oh, I forgot that part, yeah, I look in the microwave mirror. I’m a huge weirdo. I do smile in the microwave every once in a while. I forgot I put that in there. Wow. Didn’t think.

Speaker 2:
[inaudible 00:32:21].

Dom Michalec:
There you go. Things that are revealed in front of 100 people that you didn’t think would be revealed. All right, cool. A big part of wiring in a new tiny habit is rehearsing that habit. So for instance, when I showed you a habit of wiping down the countertop, I did it 10 times in a row. I walked out of the kitchen, I walked in. I didn’t actually brew a cup of coffee every single time, I brewed the water, just hit the button. I walked in, hit the button, wiped down a countertop, fist bump, walked out of the kitchen. Turned back around, did it again. It looked really silly but it helped and it wired it in. And the very next day, it was very automatic. I didn’t even have to think about it. I was like, oh, of course I hit the brew button, I wipe down the counter.

So take these cards with you, put in your back pocket, your bags, whatever it may be. And whatever environment that your new tiny habits you want to do these in, make sure that you rehearse them after you leave today. And make sure you’re rehearsing the celebration aspect of those tiny habits, that’s the important part, a lot of people skip that. It’s like, I’ll just do the tiny habit, I’ll do the celebration later. No, celebrate every single time. Again, it’s that positive emotion. It’s the emotion that creates the habit. It’s what moves it into automaticity. Celebrate every single time.

This is going to maybe sound a little, I don’t know, I don’t want to say overstated, but I do want everyone to take a moment to recognize how far you come in just an hour and a half. Not to compare, but think about how many people are outside of this room right now who want to make a change in their lives and they don’t know where to start. Y’all have taken an amazing first step today, and the idea here is, as you walk out of this room today, share what you learn. Teach people the Fogg Behavior Model. Learn about the Fog Behavior Model, teach it to people. Use your skills of change to help other people change their lives as well. Don’t just hold all the magic for yourself. Apply these skills, get better at them. Create habits. Put those habits, troubleshoot those habits. If you miss a habit, ask yourself and go, what can I do to make this easier? Do I need to switch up the prompt?

There’s another method in tiny habits called iterate, troubleshoot, and expand. We didn’t cover that today because obviously there’s nothing to troubleshoot, we haven’t put them into practice yet. But do take note that if you don’t do a habit, take it as a moment of curiosity. Why did I forget to do that, or why am I not doing this? Explore that. But take a moment to recognize how far you’ve come today in just an hour and a half, officially, hour and a half in about five seconds. But also don’t hold it all for yourself. If you learned something that you really enjoyed, share it with others. Get them curious as well. Maybe you can have a big impact on their life as well, in very tiny ways.

For those who don’t want to share vocally what they thought or what they learned, feel free to scan this QR code, give me some feedback. But I’m looking for feedback. How’d it go? What’d you learn? What’s one thing that resonated with you in today’s session? Outside of, my hand is hurting because you just made me write a mile a minute for an hour and a half.

Speaker 12:
Dom, thank you. I do think we did come pretty far, at least I feel like I did.

Dom Michalec:
Good.

Speaker 12:
The emotion nugget was definitely something that was sort of a new nuance to me.

Dom Michalec:
Cool.

Speaker 12:
And I like the idea of cheesy celebrations. So, you the man.

Dom Michalec:
Good.

Speaker 12:
I’m the woman.

Dom Michalec:
Let’s go.

Speaker 12:
You are awesome.

Dom Michalec:
Let’s go. All right, we’ll take time for one more because I know we’re out of time. I know Eric and Douglas have some pretty important things to wrap up. So we’ll take one more insight, one more aha moment.

Speaker 13:
I really like the idea of going deeper, because we could have stopped at this first step and been like, okay, we feel good about that and then tried to figure out how we can activate against it. But it was like, no, take it kind of a step further. What does that mean? Kind of just dig deeper, dig deeper, and then put it on a grid so that you could really, really understand which ones are the easiest ones, but still going to help you the most. So, just the overall framework was very good.

Dom Michalec:
Cool.

Speaker 13:
And then specifically just not stopping at the first thing that you come up with. It’s like, dig a little bit deeper, like doing the double click.

Dom Michalec:
There’s so many paths to achieving the things you want to achieve in life, and you learn the skills of how to navigate that. It’s cool.
Thank you all so much. Appreciate that.

Speaker 13:
Thank you.

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“Connection moves at the speed of vulnerability. It takes courage to be the first on the dance floor or to reach out to someone, but those brave steps can lead to powerful connections”- Bahaa Chmait

In this episode of the Facilitation Lab podcast, host Douglas Ferguson converses with Bahaa Chmait, a facilitator and 2024 TEDx speaker focused on combating loneliness through shared experiences. Bahaa discusses how his Lebanese heritage and family gatherings around food shaped his approach to fostering connections. They explore the importance of vulnerability, intentional design, and playfulness in adult interactions. Bahaa shares strategies like assigning roles in social settings and creating zones for different engagement levels to alleviate loneliness. He emphasizes the need for proactive connection and the transformative power of shared joyful experiences.

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Douglas Ferguson:

Hi, I’m Douglas Ferguson. Welcome to the Facilitation Lab Podcast, where I speak with Voltage Control certification alumni and other facilitation experts about the remarkable impact they’re making. We embrace a method-agnostic approach so you can enjoy a wide range of topics and perspectives as we examine all the nuances of enabling meaningful group experiences.

This series is dedicated to helping you navigate the realities of facilitating collaboration, ensuring every session you lead becomes truly transformative. Thanks so much for listening. If you’d like to join us for a live session sometime, you can join our Facilitation Lab community. It’s an ideal space to apply what you learn in the podcast in real time with peers. Sign up today at voltagecontrol.com/facilitation-lab.

And if you’d like to learn more about our 12-week facilitation certification program, you can read about it at voltagecontrol.com today. I’m with Bahaa Chmait at JoyMob Events and BahaaChmait.com, where he is on a mission to end loneliness, one shared experience at a time. He’s also a 2024 TEDx speaker, workshop facilitator, and vibe maker. Welcome to the show, Bahaa.

Bahaa Chmait:

Hey, thank you for having me, Douglas. Always good to see you.

Douglas Ferguson:

You as well. You as well. And we’ll get back to vibe maker. But before we do, let’s hear a little bit about you getting your start. I believe you brought it back to the Lebanese family gatherings. Can you paint us a picture of one moment that really stuck out to you as you reflect on some of those origins?

Bahaa Chmait:

There’s the dinners, food, gathering, breaking bread together. I think that’s the biggest thing. Every time I think about the origins of my facilitation career and where I’m at today and gathering people and creating a vibe, it all started around food. Lebanese people just love to gather.

And of course, every family has their traditional dish that they bring when everyone gathers. And so everyone pulls you aside. They usually grab your wrist, and they don’t let you go, and they say, “But you like mine the best, right.” And it always just brings me joy to think of those moments.

Douglas Ferguson:

It’s funny, I just saw the premiere of a new McConaughey film called The Rivals of the Amziah King, and interesting film. He was a mandolin player, beekeeper, quite an interesting fella. But when the producer came out, he dedicated the film to anybody who’s ever been to a potluck.

And there’s an amazing scene where they’re at the potluck and McConaughey is telling this young lady about all the dishes and the heritage of, “You might not want to eat this one. And this is like… This one always comes from Billy.” And he’s telling her all about Billy.

And so there’s this connection to the food and the people who made it and their personalities. And so you’re bringing me back to that moment, of I can certainly remember some potlucks growing up.

Bahaa Chmait:

Yeah, yeah. There’s something about breaking bread and just sharing time and space together, so it’s old as time, right. There’s some potlucks that I’ll host, and instead of having a curated meal, we’re just like, “Bring a dish, bring some utensils, bring a dish, and let’s share. Let’s break bread together.” There’s something beautiful about that.

Douglas Ferguson:

Yeah. And especially in community, I mean, you were talking about relatives pulling you aside and saying, “Hey, you like mine the best, right.” There’s this kind of identity around what they brought, and maybe Aunt Edna always brings the country ham biscuits, or I’m sure the Lebanese dishes are a little different. But it’s kind of that idea of this connection to I’m bringing this sustenance. It’s also something I really enjoy making that I can provide and be excited about and proud of.

Bahaa Chmait:

Yeah, absolutely. And the heritage of that recipe gets passed down through the generation. I think it kind of gets lost now, but some of the old world ways of doing things, and then they put their twist on it, maybe a little bit too, and they’re like, “But you like my version better,” even though it’s the same dish. And as a kid, you feel this social pressure to be like, “Yes, yours is the best.” But at the same time, you’re just like, “I’m here to enjoy some really delicious food with some wonderful people.”

Douglas Ferguson:

Yeah. And it brings me back to your quest to address loneliness. When I think of community where folks are gathering a lot specifically around food and heritage, you would imagine maybe loneliness wouldn’t be such a problem there, but it could also shine a big light on it.

If you juxtapose those moments that maybe aren’t happening all day every day, those are special moments, maybe once a week, or I don’t know how frequent, but it could even put a highlight on loneliness that’s there.

Or if you’re seeing it in others, it might make it more obvious because maybe they don’t have those experiences because they don’t have those opportunities to gather. I’m kind of curious, does any of that resonate with you, or did that lead to any of your discoveries and wanting to help others that were experiencing loneliness?

Bahaa Chmait:

Yeah, great question. Absolutely. I think that loneliness can… you can be surrounded by a sea of people and still be lonely. You know what I mean?

Douglas Ferguson:

Mm-hmm.

Bahaa Chmait:

And when I was growing up, I grew up in a small rural town in Canada, and no doubt about it, hey, it was a small place, 500 people. And I’ve had this first-generation Lebanese Canadian family comes to this rural town, and everything was different. My lunches were different. I would [inaudible 00:05:40] Kafta. Have you had Lebanese food before? [inaudible 00:05:43].

Douglas Ferguson:

I love it.

Bahaa Chmait:

Yeah.

Douglas Ferguson:

Mm-hmm.

Bahaa Chmait:

It’s delicious, right. But when you’re a kid, you just want to fit in. And so they had peanut butter and jam sandwiches. They had lunchables.

Douglas Ferguson:

The juice boxes.

Bahaa Chmait:

Yeah, the good stuff, right. I mean a charcuterie board for kids. Those Lunchables were, I mean, come on now. That was delicious. But of course, I wanted to fit in. And so I was kind of the exotic kid. Had a unibrow, even my name was Bahaa. And so, as an adult, everyone’s like, “Bahaa, that’s amazing. Lebanese food, that’s awesome.” But when you’re a kid, everyone’s like, “Bahaaaaa.”

So that disconnection was challenging, and my parents wanted to ascribe… me to ascribe to old world beliefs, traditions, values, and I’m trying to fit in. And so, where do you belong? Where’s your community? Who’s your tribe? And so that lack of belonging led to that loneliness that we’re talking about right now. And it can be isolating trying to figure out where you belong.

I sometimes talk to kids who are not just first generation kids, but kids who have parents from different races or heritages. And so both tribes don’t fully accept them, they say, and they’re kind of stuck in this no man’s land, and that’s a pretty isolating place to be. I’m sure some of your listeners have probably connected with that before.

Douglas Ferguson:

Yeah, for sure. And I’m curious, when you’re working with this kind of eradicating loneliness, how are you confronting that? Is it through these conversations you’re having with folks, or yes, and? Are there other things that you’re doing? How does that show up for you?

Bahaa Chmait:

I think the main thing is designing experiences. As an experience designer, I can tap into that isolating feeling. We’ve all been to a mingling thing or a networking thing, and we just kind of didn’t form a circle at some point in that mingling thing. It’s hard to break into that circle and connect, and so you’re kind of just left off to the side. And so my goal when I’m facilitating with groups in public gatherings or team gatherings is, how do we create connection before content?

So before we just jump into the event, people came for the event because they want to see the event, but they come back because they connected with people. They met people that they connected with. So facilitating an icebreaker, an ice melter, whatever you want to call it, allows people the opportunity to come out of their shells a little bit, especially if you give them a safe and vulnerable environment to do it in. And then they get to choose their own adventure. I think that’s the biggest thing is not forcing anything. Forced fun is never fun. You know what I mean?

Douglas Ferguson:

Mm-hmm.

Bahaa Chmait:

Trust falls are kind of lame, and team building can sometimes feel like going to the dentist. Necessary, but you don’t exactly want to do it. So, how can we make it more engaging and fun and playful for people and just meet them where they’re at?

Douglas Ferguson:

What’s something recent that you’ve done that you can kind of point to that might draw a more realistic picture for folks?

Bahaa Chmait:

I do a lot of movement-based practice as well, and sometimes they’re flash mobs, sometimes they’re public sing-alongs on trains. With the flash mobs, I worked with a global hotel chain, an executive leadership team of global hotel chain, dancing in front of your colleagues can be vulnerable. They wanted to produce a flash mob for their 40th anniversary of the hotel. So we first gave them a tutorial video that they could practice in the comfort of their own home.

And I tell this story in my TED Talk. But one thing that I left out in the talk was that one of the leaders came up to me afterwards and said, “Hey, I was practicing at home in my time in one of my spare rooms, and my daughter walked by and saw me practicing the dance moves at the tutorial video, and she started joining me” and they started having this bonding experience where there were dancing together and connecting.

And it was this beautiful story of how, by intentionally creating something like a tutorial video so that they don’t feel vulnerable and unsafe in front of everyone, they could kind of build that courage first at home, they got a chance to bond, and it had ripple effects beyond the workplace, beyond this thing that they were initially doing to connect with family.

And there was this beautiful sort of intergenerational father-daughter moment that may have not happened otherwise if it wasn’t for intentional design. And I think it was really beautiful. It’s a really beautiful story to share. Those little moments I hear in every experience that we design. There’s always a little nugget or takeaway from something that I’ve designed, and I think that’s really rewarding for me and really just spreads joy in the world.

Douglas Ferguson:

Yeah. Yeah. That’s super fun and cool. And I guess, what other ways are you seeing joy kind of appear these days? Because I think that it’s really easy to get caught up in the rhetoric of the times and the divisiveness and stuff. And so, how are you seeing these opportunities for joy?

Bahaa Chmait:

I think being intentional. Priya Parker says it best. “Purpose is your bouncer.” Just being purposeful with your day, with your interactions with people. I’d say that connection moves at the speed of vulnerability. And when… Have you ever been to anywhere where there’s a dance floor, so a wedding, a bar, anything like that, and you saw that no one was dancing? Have you ever had that happen? Yeah. And why is no one dancing? Because no one’s dancing, right. No one wants to be the first one on that dance floor. It’s scary.

It takes a lot of courage and bravery because what if no one joins you? If everyone joins you, it’s a party. And so no one goes on the dance for, so no one goes on the dance floor. And it’s the same thing with human connection. Whether you’re trying to bridge a connection and reach out to somebody that you know, or don’t know or you’re trying to even apologize. If nobody goes first, then nothing happens. And you can only control what you do, not what other people do or how they react.

And so finding that courage and that bravery to get out on that dance floor or reach out to that friend and say hi, or reach out to that colleague, that work teammate and say, “Hey, there’s some friction between us. Can we talk about how to resolve this?” It can be incredibly scary and incredibly hard, but so powerful because connection, it moves at the speed of vulnerability. And so, yeah, I just invite everybody to take that step and be brave and see what happens. The worst that can happen is you’re at where you’re at.

Douglas Ferguson:

Yeah, true, true. And what are some of your go-to mechanisms to get the first person out on the dance floor? I mean, are you modeling that? Is that something you’re doing, getting out there first?

Is it about inviting more people in so that they’re more encouraged and feel invited, versus just getting brought to the event versus getting invited on the dance floor? I mean, I don’t know. I’m just going to throw in some things out, but I’m curious, what have you found to be the mechanisms to really get people to engage?

Bahaa Chmait:

Yeah, I would say that always looking at things in terms of team, in terms of collaboration, in terms of group, when you’re thinking in terms of group. So if I’m facilitating something where I want somebody to be vulnerable, whether it’s a debrief in the team in group sharing or it’s getting out on the dance floor after a talk that I’ve given, which we did. We threw a dance party for 500 people after the TEDx talk that I gave because it was all about dance and movement, primed everybody to just be playful and give themselves permission.

What I like to do is I like to connect with a few people and say, “Hey, if I call for somebody to just raise their hand and say something, will you be the first one?” And I think just inviting people, giving them a role at the gathering, gives them a sense of purpose. “Can you be the host of the person that kind of greets people when they look like they’re standing off alone? Or can you be the person who greets people when they first come in so that their entry is this warm and welcoming thing?” Everybody wants to be part of something, and I think if we co-create it, we’re able to achieve really cool things.

But if it’s just all about you and you’re the only one doing something, it can be really hard to start a movement and get people going. So I think it’s about offering an invitation, setting it up ahead of time for success, and modeling what vulnerability looks like for sure. There’s definitely been times where I’ve invited people to come dance in the streets in public sort of pop-up, flash mob style dances, and I created a video to say, “Hey, this is where we’re going to be dancing, and here’s me dancing right now as people walk by to show, ‘Listen, I know this is weird and kind of awkward and vulnerable, but I’m doing it right now and I want you to come join me as well.'” It can be magic.

Douglas Ferguson:

When you mention roles, it’s making me think about how important it can be to have a focus as an attendee. Or oftentimes when someone shows up and is looking around the room and wondering, “Oh my gosh, what can I do here? Where am I supposed to go? Do I go to the bar first, or do I go over here first?” And so having a role or a responsibility can be a really great way to curb some anxiety and know where to fit.

In fact, I think it’s a powerful thing to do, even if you’re going to a house party and it’s some folks you just met, maybe ask the host how you can be helpful. “Can I go stir this pot, or can I take out the recycling? It looks a little full or something.” But just having some role or thing to do can be really helpful to calm the mind and the nerves. So I thought that was interesting, you brought that up. Does that show up a lot in how you think about shaping these experiences?

Bahaa Chmait:

Absolutely. I think to resonate with that, I think as kind people, we reach out to the host and I say, “What can I bring?” Ice, bottle of wine, whatever it is. But then, once we get to the party, we forget that we can still support the gathering and support the intention of the gathering. And so it’s nice. I think about this often when I’m designing experiences.

I used to be the type of experienced designer who designed in the background and not be in the forefront, so I wouldn’t give a public speech or anything. I would just design it and then let the audience kind of take over. And I think about that with people who love to do photography and videography. They love to be behind the lens. They don’t want to be the subject of the experience. They want to be behind curating, but how can we encourage everybody to have a role?

“Yeah, when you get to the party, hey, can you make sure that the cups… everybody has a drink or everybody’s having fun,” and each part of the household has a different vibe. The kitchen has that big party vibe where all the things happen, whereas the couch, the living room, may be more chill, the backyard. So there could be zones. I don’t know. What do you think? There could be zones for creating some rules for people as well?

Douglas Ferguson:

Yeah, I mean, it’s interesting. We always talk about pop-up rules and temporary spaces that we might be designing for or supporting. And I like this idea of zones. You could have different rules or different expectations, different criteria, different games in the different zones, for sure.

I mean, it kind of naturally happens when you’re talking about a house party because just because of the nature of the space. And also, I think kitchens just have that quality to them. When people are in a party, they’re magnetic.

Bahaa Chmait:

Yeah, yeah. They’re standing. They’re energized. Usually the shots are there.

Douglas Ferguson:

Right. There’s that.

Bahaa Chmait:

Yeah, there’s all the factors that come into play. Yeah, interesting. Maybe at a public event where you’re at a conference or a networking thing, they create zones and each zone has its own vibe, the breakout sessions, the seminars, the main room, the dah, dah, dah. And so, yeah, creating experiences specifically for those zones, I think we’re onto something here.

Douglas Ferguson:

Space and how you allocate space and break folks up, how you decorate it, how you set up furniture, all those things can be subtle cues into how we want people to engage with the space or what the rules are.

Bahaa Chmait:

I think one thing that we tend to miss as adults is playfulness. We always think we have to show up in this sort of polished way, and it doesn’t have to be completely refined and polished. It can be playful. It could be a banter, an exchange.

I think that, as adults, we start to lose our sense of play. NASA conducted a study, and they concluded that 98% of children are born creative geniuses, 98%. And then, they did a study later on in life. They said, as adults, only 2% still qualify, and I think that’s because we unlearn play. You know what I mean?

Douglas Ferguson:

Yeah. I think it gets taught out of us in a way, this idea that school is about having the correct answer, but we get kind of built and programmed to do well on the test and to fall in line and be a good student, and all these things.

Bahaa Chmait:

Yeah.

Douglas Ferguson:

There’s a really great book called Orbiting the Giant Hairball that talks about this, and there’s a really amazing section where the author is… I guess one of the things he would do in his spare time, he was a creative director at Hallmark, and so you can imagine the whimsy and creativeness that had to flow through him.

And one of the things he would do is visit children at elementary schools and bring metal sculptures and try to wow them and talk to them about art, and to follow their passion for art. He had this interesting little experiment he would run where he would ask the students which of them were artists.

And he’s like, the kindergartens all raise their hands, but then you get up to the fourth, fifth graders, and no one’s raising their hand, and he’s like… and he would ask the students, “What’s happening here? Are all the artists moving away.”

Bahaa Chmait:

Yeah. It’s amazing how we unlearn that, for sure. Kids, you can give them a simple drawing and they’ll come up with 10 different things that it is. And as adults, we look at it and we’re like, “Um, that’s this one thing and only this one thing.” But yeah, I want to encourage and invite everybody to create playlists, and I’m not talking about music playlists, but a play list, a list of things that bring you joy. Dr. Stuart Brown of the National Play Institute says that the opposite of play is not work. It’s depression.

And I think that we have the opportunity to become more playful and give ourselves the opportunity to take play breaks even at work. Some things that are on my playlist are dancing, midday dance parties. I work remote, and so just turning off the camera doing the… and then just turn on some music and just moving the body a little bit. It can be so rejuvenating. Going for a skip down the street, coloring, it’s something that your mind just gets focused into something that’s so simple. Telling dad jokes is the one I sent you this morning, I hope it made you laugh.

Douglas Ferguson:

Oh, yeah.

Bahaa Chmait:

Or at least you roll your eyes.

Douglas Ferguson:

I’m a big fan of dad jokes. Yeah. No, I’m a big fan of dad jokes, so I’m definitely one to carry those around and share them to… much to my wife’s chagrin.

Bahaa Chmait:

I feel like there’s two spectrums, right. There’s the rolling on the floor laughing, and then there’s the eye roll and everything in between, and everyone knows where they kind of fall, especially when it comes to dad jokes. But no matter what, as long as I can get a response out of somebody, I think that’s a win.

Douglas Ferguson:

Yeah, that’s a useful tool.

Bahaa Chmait:

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, for sure. So I think there’s four rules around a playlist that I want to talk about. The first rule of playlists and play is make sure that you lose track of time. If you’re losing track of time, then you’re playing, you’re doing it right. If you lose track of time, you’re totally immersed in the experience. That’s great play. The second is don’t have a goal or an outcome. Just enjoy the experience.

When I’m coloring, it’s not about finishing the project, it’s about just coloring and just doing whatever comes to me or calls to me. Being… The emotional side, being light or silly or energized, having the emotion attached to it. And then the fourth thing is allowing yourself to be curious and self-expressive. I think those are four great elements of play that I want to invite everybody to engage in more.

Douglas Ferguson:

Yeah, it’s interesting. The lack of outcome, I think, is one that many people might struggle with letting go of.

Bahaa Chmait:

That need for results or perfection or…

Douglas Ferguson:

Yeah, perfection’s certainly a thing. I was thinking more in the lines of, “There has to be a reason why I’m going to do this thing.” It seems like a very societal way of behaving or way of being, right. That we have these objectives. This thing we have to accomplish, so I can imagine that being difficult, at least in my observations of how folks think about meetings, how they think about the way they spend their time.

Bahaa Chmait:

Yeah. Yeah, for sure. When you ask someone that you don’t know if they want to play rock, paper, scissors, I tend to get a few different answers. I get a yes, an enthusiastic yes, I get a no, which is totally fine, and then sometimes I get a, “But for what?” And they want to know, “What’s the outcome? What’s the purpose? Why? Why are we doing this thing? Can it just be playful, or does it have to be something that is more?”

Douglas Ferguson:

Mm-hmm.

Bahaa Chmait:

So it’s interesting tapping into what you’re saying.

Douglas Ferguson:

What’s your percentages on those three answers?

Bahaa Chmait:

I would say that for what is a big one. “Why? For what? What are we doing?” They want to understand the parameters around it, but it also depends on context because I’ll ask people-

Douglas Ferguson:

Yeah. Where you’re at and who you’re running into.

Bahaa Chmait:

Yeah. Yeah. Are they a complete stranger? Are you at a mingling event or a networking event? Are you at something playful? There’s an experience. We partnered with the local transit authority and the city, and we created these JoyMob’s, so a mob of people spreading joy, and we brought entertainment onto the train cars and the train doors open, and a big loud of laughter just erupts from the train car.

And when people first hop on, they’re like, “What’s happening here?” And they’re like, “I don’t understand. It’s usually this solo, disconnected kind of ride. I’ve just planned to be on my phone, look out the window, put my headphones in.” And we were doing this improv comedy thing, and the audience, even for a two-minute ride, short little skits, we were getting audience suggestions, and they were participating and laughing and making eye contact with each other.

And it was this beautiful experience of connecting versus what pre-programmed your mind to think that the ride is going to be, and then being delightfully surprised, and the facial expressions that people, when they hop on the train, they’re like, “What is happening here?”

Douglas Ferguson:

Was that the first JoyMob that you ever did?

Bahaa Chmait:

The first JoyMob we ever did was dancing in the streets, and it was a silent disco, and it was a traveling silent disco. So, for those that don’t know silent disco, you put music in your headphones, no one can hear the music, except… unless you have the headphones. So, going down the street, we were flash mobbing farmer’s markets. They’re buying food and groceries, and we’re like, “Woo-hoo.” And that’s all you hear. And everybody’s like, “People are crazy.” But [inaudible 00:25:37]-

Douglas Ferguson:

And they’re so… You were just walking down the street just from neighborhood to neighborhood.

Bahaa Chmait:

Joyfully moving our bodies to music, and we were inspired by the music. We gave them prompts in the headphones too. Give a high five to a stranger, dance as if you were Fred Astaire, jump up onto a park bench, or twirl around a light pole.

Douglas Ferguson:

That’s fascinating that you had the prompts in there. Most silent discos I’ve been aware of, people are listening to music, and oftentimes they’re hearing different music. So you’ve got maybe five to 10 different tracks. And so people are dancing to different things, and it’s quite unreal to look at because no one’s dancing in the same thing.

Bahaa Chmait:

Everybody’s moving to their own groove, right. Yeah.

Douglas Ferguson:

Yeah. And so that’s fascinating that you introduced the prompts, then that gave people maybe a little more confidence to go further than they normally would.

Bahaa Chmait:

Yeah. Again, inviting people into the experience. I’m thinking about the five E’s of experience design. You create excitement in the beginning and really set the tone for what’s going to happen. Then, in the entry, when people were coming, we were welcoming them with a warm welcome. We did a team-building activity, and then we move into the experience. And how do we design the experience so that it’s engaging and it’s not just stale? This was pre-COVID that we did this first one years and years before.

And we found that some people came up to the people with headphones and they said, “What are you doing?” And we said, “We’re dancing.” And they’re like, “Well, can I join in?” And so they took out their headphones and either shared their headphones, again pre-COVID, or they put their phone on speakerphone and just listened with this… the phone next to both of their ears. And they shared a moment of dancing together in this sort of wildly vulnerable state out in the wild, on a street corner, in a park. It was beautiful.

Douglas Ferguson:

So what was going through your mind right before it first started? This is your first one. The anticipating is building. What were you thinking?

Bahaa Chmait:

Fear that no one was going to show up. It was a wildly unique ask of the community. I had a goal, I wanted to see if I could unite the city through dance. I put up some posters, word got out, the media caught wind. They had me on the Live Morning Show. I told them what we were doing, and I said, “I’m going to be dancing here, come join me.” And I thought to myself, I didn’t even have a business or a Facebook or anything set up.

So I was like, “Well, what if no one comes? Will I still honor the thing that I said I was going to do? Will I still be the strange guy dancing in the streets?” And slowly, one by one, eventually 60-something people showed up and this beautiful celebration. And at the end, everybody’s hugging, getting to know each other. They’re asking me what’s next. And that’s when I realized like, “Oh, there’s an opportunity here for more human connection in unique ways than we typically see.”

Douglas Ferguson:

Of those people. How many are you still in touch with? Was this the foundation of building real, lasting relationships?

Bahaa Chmait:

Yeah, yeah, absolutely. I think I was more connected to the dance community at that time, and it was a lot of wonderful dancers. We met at Ecstatic Dance and would have a beautiful time together. I think that in the law of diffusion of innovation, it’s a bell curve. In the beginning to start a movement, you need the innovators and the early adopters.

So basically, what that means is you need someone that’s willing to go first, and then you need the people who will back that up and be like, “Okay, I’m in. Sign me up. I don’t want to be the first one. But since there’s a movement, since you’re dancing in the streets, since you’re singing on train, since you’re dah, dah, dah, dah, writing love letters and leaving them in public for people to find and brighten up their day, I want to join in.”

And so we had that group right off the bat. It just started building and building and building, and then we reached a tipping point to start reaching some more of the majority, the early and late majority of the people in the bell curve. Does that make sense?

Douglas Ferguson:

Yeah, absolutely. And then I know that through these JoyMob Events, you started to transition into working with companies. So I was curious, how do you translate the spontaneity of these kind of in-person joy experiences into more structured facilitation work, especially in these more buttoned-up situations like corporate teams?

Bahaa Chmait:

Sure. Yeah. It was a challenging transition to move from public activations into the corporate space. I hadn’t worked in corporate spaces before. One big factor, I think, was actually taking Voltage Control certification course because we did a project. And in that project, I started to identify exactly what kind of facilitator I was, what kind of outcomes I wanted to have, how did I actually create these experiences. And I started using those building blocks to create them in the workplace. And I think the biggest thing that helped me leap was giving myself permission.

We don’t give ourselves permission enough to explore, to be brave, to create. I was terrified to go into the corporate space, and slowly but surely, I started doing these little activations with them. “Let’s do a team-building thing here. Let’s do a team-building thing there.” And I came in with the mindset of instead of it being about me, I made it about them. And I was like, “How can I serve the needs that are needed for this environment?” So when I talked to the HR teams, the sales leaders, the sales teams, the team leaders, we’re disconnected, we’re not communicating well.

So I designed an experience for that, and it started to propel and it led me down some very beautiful paths. And you’re right, teams can be buttoned up. And I come in with the energy of having them see me be vulnerable. So if I’m going to invite them into an experience, I’m going to share something about my experience first, just to kind of model that. And like I said, if I know some people in the audience already, or if I know some people on the team, I’ll invite them behind the scenes to share as well, so that someone needs to go first. And through that, we can create some really cool things together, especially in a buttoned-up environment.

Douglas Ferguson:

Yeah. What’s that journey that helps them kind of move step by step and get more comfortable and more vulnerable and more open, and what are folks ready for at that point, right? I think sometimes if folks aren’t ready to step in, how do we create that threshold that makes it easier for them to do so?

Bahaa Chmait:

Yeah. Yeah. It can be awkward, right. Especially I think when people hear team building, they think of the old school style with the trust balls and sort of the forced fun, and we talked about this already, that team building it’s needed because you need to support culture. It’s not just about productivity. When you have a positive culture, it leads to productivity.

When you have culture of psychological safety and belonging, I envision a world where belonging is considered a metric and measured as a metric in productivity, so that we make sure that there’s space for it. And if you create a psychologically safe space, people start to move into it. It takes a minute, but they start to ramp up.

Douglas Ferguson:

Yeah. And it can be transformative. So what were some of the most powerful shifts you’ve witnessed in others during or after one of your sessions? Anything that’s given you goosebumps?

Bahaa Chmait:

I think when people come up to me afterwards and they tell me, “I needed that,” and they have this sort of expression on their face like, “I really needed that.”

There’s a moment in every experience that gets designed, especially if it gets designed intentionally where you have feedback, whether it’s the executive leader who was dancing with his daughter and shares that experience, or I think teams have the ability to really be productive when they feel psychologically safe and have a foundation of trust and connection.

And I think that’s what really resonates with me when they come up to me afterwards and communicate that they felt safe enough to be vulnerable. Like I said before, connection moves at the speed of vulnerability. So it’s exciting. It’s exciting.

Douglas Ferguson:

You talked a lot about your TED Talk, and I know that it was… you were really excited about it, and it was kind of a big moment for you and took a lot of work. And so I was curious when you were in that work or even reflecting on it later, what did preparing for it help you understand about your work?

Bahaa Chmait:

You mentioned some great books and movies. There’s one that I’m reading right now called Chopped Wood Carry Water. Have you read it or heard of it?

Douglas Ferguson:

Yes.

Bahaa Chmait:

There’s some really great lessons in there where they talk about everything matters, the details matter, the little things matter. So when we were getting coached on our body language and the way we move on stage, the way we take applause or receive applause, the way we speak to the audience, which areas of the audience are we speaking to? The balcony, the lower level, the left, the right. There was so much details, and the whole time I was thinking to myself, “I’m just trying to memorize my lines, man. I’m just trying to memorize my lines and not mess this up.”

But when you focus on the details and you give yourself enough time, I think that was the biggest lesson that I learned, giving myself enough time, giving myself permission to fail in the practice enough times that when I got on stage, it was like second nature. It just felt comfortable. At one point, the audience was laughing at something I said, and then I actually started laughing because they were laughing. And in my head, I thought, how playful is this?

But I was also thinking to myself, “Is this allowed? Am I allowed to be human and laugh with the audience instead of just like, ‘I’m here to deliver a talk?'” So it was a really cool experience, and I think that for anybody who’s willing to be brave enough to do some public speaking or take the plunge, I say, give yourself enough time to fail enough times in practice so that when you’re in front of everybody, you’re just there to have fun and it’s just relaxed and playful.

Douglas Ferguson:

I love that. We’re big proponents of practice, as you know, with all the community events focused on practice and really encouraging people to spend the time when the stakes are low so that when we’re called on, we have the confidence to step into those high-stakes moments.

Bahaa Chmait:

Yeah. And I’m a big fan of the Facilitation Labs and the practice labs that Voltage Control does because of that opportunity and the ability to fail and continue forward. As you know, Chris and I were co-presidents of a global speaker series that celebrated failure, and we’d have speakers go on stage and share their stories of professional failure and the lessons learned.

And it was really interesting as facilitators of that experience to see, “Oh, here’s some areas where we needed to grow and we weren’t excelling as creators of this experience, and here’s some areas where we were growing and the next time we did it, we did it even better.” And yeah, life’s about practice. Jump in, jump in with both feet and see what happens. It’s exciting.

Douglas Ferguson:

Yeah, absolutely. And also, I was even recalling you mentioning wanting to help others find their facilitator voice. So what advice do you have to give someone who feels the pull toward facilitation but isn’t sure where to start?

Bahaa Chmait:

I think about this little acronym, CBA. First, I think getting clarity on exactly what you want. As a facilitator, it can be hard to know exactly where you want to go, but just get clarity on something small. “I want to do this. I want to do that.” And then remove the limiting beliefs that you have around it. And the best way to do that is to practice. Best way to do that is to be around other people who you can fail in front of and feel psychologically safe.

And then, finally, the A is action. Take action. The more you just sit and think about it, the harder it’s going to be to move forward. And sometimes that clarity, sometimes you need to take action and then you get clarity. So just take action, take baby steps, move forward. For me, I didn’t know how to move into the corporate space, so I took the Voltage Control certification, and it gave me the stepping stone.

I was like, “Okay, this is pretty cool. I was in a safe environment. I was in a cohort of people that, some of them were in the corporate speak world, and some of them weren’t in the corporate world.” And I was like, “Oh, there are other people like me that I can connect with and feel this camaraderie with.” So take action. Get clear on what you want, even if it’s just baby steps. You don’t have to have the big end goal in mind. And most of all, remove the limiting beliefs that you have and give yourself permission to just explore.

Douglas Ferguson:

And this might be a similar answer, but I’m curious if we now zoom out a little bit because we were talking specifically about facilitation and facilitation skills.

But if we then more broadly look at communities and your mission of helping spread joy and connection as a part of daily life, what’s one step people might take to move closer to your vision that they’re realizing your dream of communities that have joy and connection?

What’s something that folks might do to have a little more of that? Is it about the playlist, or are there other things that folks might consider?

Bahaa Chmait:

The playlist is great for your mental health. Everyone should make a playlist. What I would say is, think about the dance floor analogy. Think about the first person who needs to go, and like we said before, whether it’s bridging connection with somebody, maybe it’s a colleague, you’re a remote worker, and you’re onboarded and you’ve got a few Zoom, and then what’s the rest of the time? You’re left to kind of connect, reach out, and throw them a dad joke and start building a relationship.

Most people don’t reach out because the other person didn’t reach out. And so if you just hop on the dance floor, get a little bit of bravery, a little bit of courage, some really amazing things happen. And when you send that dad joke to a colleague who’s working remotely as well, I think about 40% of the time, I get a response back. I get the laughing emoji, and then I get, “I needed that. I needed that.” Because everyone’s having a challenging day, it works hard, life’s hard.

So just reach out, bridge the gap. Be the first one to get on that dance floor of life, and people will join you because everybody’s craving connection. We’re in the middle of the loneliness epidemic, according to the World Health Organization. And we’re more connected than ever before through technology, and yet there’s this disconnection that we all have and we all feel. So be the first, or gather up a group of people together and be the first together. But take action.

Douglas Ferguson:

Love that. And I want to wrap here with an opportunity for you to leave our listeners with a final thought.

Bahaa Chmait:

I think that was it, the one I gave you. I think that was it. Be the first one on the dance floor. I imagine a world where loneliness is optional, and I’ll let that sink in because I don’t know too many people who would choose that option. But when we have enough human connection in the world, that loneliness would be optional, that would be a very beautiful world to live in.

So I think be the first one on the dance floor. Go first, reach out, connect with that person you haven’t connected with yet, whether it’s a cousin or a friend [inaudible 00:41:44] talk to in a while, or a parent, or if you’re a remote worker, reach out to your colleagues and just put yourself out there. Be the first one on the dance floor. I guarantee you someone will join you, and you’ll start to create a movement of connection that’s really beautiful.

Douglas Ferguson:

It’s been a pleasure having you on the show. Bahaaaa. And thanks so much for joining me.

Bahaa Chmait:

Childhood Trauma coming back. Oh man, it’s been so great talking to you, Douglas. Thanks for spreading joy in the world and creating opportunities for people to connect, whether it’s through the Facilitation Labs and the ability to experience what a supportive environment looks like, or through the regional meetups that you’re supporting right now.

I hope one gets started in Salt Lake City, where I’m at, or just your playful nature. We’ve worked together with some clients on a few different occasions, and I just love the way you show up. Joking, playful, jovial. You allow people to see who you are, and I think that’s really cool.

Douglas Ferguson:

Well, thank you for that. And Bahaa, you’re always a pleasure. And again, thank you so much for being here.

Bahaa Chmait:

Yeah, Douglas. Woo-hoo.

Douglas Ferguson:

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